Mom Shares Raw Plea About Bullying & Social Media After Daughter's Suicide Attempt

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Up until recently, Leigh Davey and her family have been dealing with a serious situation privately. She hasn't discussed what her daughter has been going through over the last seven months with anyone outside of immediate family and authorities. But after a heartbreaking incident, this brave mom from Western Australia is speaking out about Eva's experience with school bullies -- both in person and on social media.

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In her raw post, Leigh explained the unthinkable situation that her daughter went through, in order to not only urge parents to be aware of what their children are doing on social media, but also to beg them to take responsibility for their kids' behavior.

"Our girl has had a video taken of her sitting at her desk at school, legs slightly open, with a lovely caption about the smell," she wrote on Facebook. The footage had then been uploaded to Snapchat for other classmates to laugh at.

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Leigh Davey/Facebook

To stand up for her daughter, Leigh immediately went to the police, but they determined that it wasn't an act of photographing and distributing pornographic material -- so there were no consequences for those who took and shared the video. "Yes, a 12-year-old can be prosecuted if the content breaches certain criteria. Sadly our daughter's didn't, but she was subjected to weeks of ridicule," she wrote. "Repercussions? The girl who posted the video lost her playtime. The person who took the video? Nothing, because no one would tell who it was."

Leigh continued to try to defend her daughter and went on social media to confront some of the bullies, but she quickly learned how brave kids and their parents feel about saying whatever they want while sitting behind a computer screen. "In this age of social media, children think it's OK to send hateful messages without consequences," she wrote. "I've had calls from these children calling me an old hag because I've defended our daughter, approached parents and pleaded with them to talk with their children and ask them to stop. I've even approached the children themselves, but been threatened by parents with harassment."

According to Leigh, Eva's school district wasn't any help in stopping the torment because no matter how bad it got, their stance was that every child is entitled to an education -- so they don't expel students over bullying. "What about our child's entitlement?" she wrote. 

Eva has been sent home from school numerous times because of self-harming, and she is no longer allowed to have a pencil sharpener because she takes the blade out in order to cut herself. "The WA department of education also told me, 'You should teach your child how to be resilient against bullies.' Yes, they said that," she wrote. 

Leigh wants parents to realize that kids think it's okay to verbally attack other children at school because they get away with it at home through their screens. But when nobody steps up to do something about it, kids on the receiving end of both forms of bullying, like her daughter, are the ones that suffer. "Last week we spent over five hours in [the emergency room] with psychiatrists, doctors, and nurses, because our girl 'had a plan to commit suicide,' and on Tuesday I am in court applying for a [restraining order] against a 12-year-old to keep her (the bully) away from our beautiful girl," she wrote. "All because parents don't accept responsibility for their children and schools can only do so much."

Leigh is fed up with the school's "safety plan" for when there is a bullying situation, because it's ridiculous that the bully only loses recess or lunch privileges. That isn't doing enough to protect the child at the brunt of it, and Leigh is pleading that parents step in where schools don't. "Please, in this awful age of social media (or anti-social media as we call it) check your children's messages. Their devices are a privilege, nothing more, nothing less, so please make sure they are being polite and respectful in their messages," she wrote. "Teach the children to 'talk,' not use text or social media to air their differences. Bullying affects the whole family, not just the bullied. It needs to stop and it needs to stop now!"

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