Dad's Loving Note Spares Gay Teenager the Heartache of Coming Out

Father's letter to his gay sonHope for the human race! A letter that the pro-gay clothing and accessory brand FCKH8 shared on their Facebook account today shows truly great dad's response to overhearing his son's plans come out. If only all parents of gay kids were so casually accepting!

Apparently the dad, whose identity is unknown, overheard his son Nate on the phone with someone named Mike. They were talking about Nate's plans to come out to his family, something it seems Nate was feeling pretty nervous about. But as far as Nate’s dad was concerned, Nate only needed to plan one thing ...


"... to bring home OJ and bread after class.”

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Aww!! Nate’s dad wrote this note to let him know what not only did Nate not have to worry about “coming out” to them, but really, it seems to me, to let Nate know that his parents didn’t think it was a big deal that their son was gay. “I've known you were gay since you were six, I've loved you since you were born,” wrote his dad, words of such unconditional love and acceptance they give me chills and make me want to cry.

The whole letter reads like this:


I overheard your phone conversation with Mike last night about your plans to come out to me. The only thing I need you to plan is to bring home OJ and bread after class. We are out, like you now.

I've known you were gay since you were six, I've loved you since you were born.

- Dad P.S. Your mom and I think you and Mike make a cute couple.

That “P.S.” cinches it for me that Nate’s dad means every word he writes. I am tempted to say that Nate is lucky to have such great parents -- and he is -- but I wish that reactions like this were the norm, and didn’t cause such a big splash. Maybe someday soon that will be true, and every time I read about something like this -- like a father being proud of his son for coming out at a school assembly, or parents reaction to a rainbow "coming out" cake made by their daughter -- I do have hope.

Because it is us, the parents, who are lucky to have our children to love. WE’RE the lucky ones, to get to love every part of our babies, just the way they are, the way they were born, as exactly who they are. That is our gift not just to our kids, but to ourselves.

How would you react if you found our your kid was gay?

Image via FCKH8/Facebook

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