Dad's Reaction to Finding Porn on Son's Computer Is Priceless

computerThere's no easy way to say this, folks. One day you are probably going to find porn on your kid's computer. Maybe they'll be curious. Maybe it will be a complete accident. Either way, we could all learn something from the dad who left his 13-year-old son the most understanding "I found porn on your computer" letter in the history of parenting.

The dad, who uploaded his letter to Reddit but has since scrubbed even his screenname from the site, did exactly what parents should. He set down limits, but by some miracle he didn't come off as an authoritarian jerk who can't remember what it's like to be hella curious about S-E-X.


Just check out this snippet:

I want to start out by saying that I love ya and I'm not trying to embarrass you. Before you do anything else click the star in the upper right hand corner of internet explorer which is already pulled up and then click back on the icon to the right of the skype symbol in your toolbar to pull this page back up. ---------------------------------------> That history is the reason that you got that scamware and all the other crap on your computer. I want to tell you that it's ok. Listen, I was 13 once too and it wasn't so long ago that I don't remember. I'm not mad or anything. It's life and I did it too. I just want you to know that most of those sites are places that can and will ruin your computer.

Whaaaat? A dad who actually admits he was a horny teenager? Mind = blown, y'all!

The whole letter is worth reading, but if you aren't in the mood, you got the point. It's OK to acknowledge that kids are sexually curious. If you walk in and find your son whacking off to your Victoria's Secret catalog, you don't have to dial your voice up to shrew and smack him over the head with said magazine. If you find porn on her laptop, well ... you get the point.

It's not going to ruin your whole "I'm the parent, and you LISTEN to me" thing that you've got going. Actually, now that I think about it, it might actually MAKE your kids more willing to listen to you. So you can approach them with some sense of understanding from a selfish point of view. 

Or you can consider this: do you really want to make sexuality terrifying for your kids? If you have them so scared of anything even remotely related to knocking boots that they're nervous about even touching their private parts in the shower to give 'em a good wash, you're not doing the job of preparing them for their future.

They are going to spend the rest of their lives getting turned on by things in this world. Hopefully one day they'll even get married and have a satisfying sex life with someone who they love very much. It may squick you out, but you made it through being pooped and barfed on. You can handle a little sex talk with kindness, can't you?

Here, this bit might help you find the words:

If you want to completely ignore this ever happened then I can and will do that too. Please don't act awkward around me because of this. You have nothing to be embarrassed about. I just can't have an 1800 dollar machine turned into a brick because you haven't learned where to go on the internet. I'm not going to put a child lock on your computer or punish you in any way because as I said you did nothing wrong. I would like you to not be back here so much though. You literally spend all of your time back here. I'd like to see you more often. I like doing stuff with you and miss it.

Do you think this dad had the right approach? What would you have done in his situation?


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