Beyonce Shows Her Teen Fans the Right Way to Get Pregnant

Beyonce, babyAfter years of questioning Urban America’s premier power couple about their plans to birth a power tot, the paparazzi finally has their wish. Hold on to your Twitter feed, folks. It’s about to be a gossip and teeny-tiny-minute-detail filled pregnancy. Please expect to spend the next six months or so reading headlines about the every bubble and bounce of Beyonce’s womb.

Even as Bey stood at the VMAs drenched in her typical brand of flawless gorgeousness, cupping her cute little baby bump beneath a hot mama gown, something bigger than her obvious joy was in the works. As the brouhaha from the Will and Jada divorce dust-up tentatively settles, Beyonce and Jay-Z are making jumping the broom and raising babies palatable to a generation that has grown up listening to their choice of baby mama anthems while using “baby daddy” as a term of endearment. 


When Keyshia Cole married her NBA baller boyfriend Daniel Gibson back in the spring, I wanted to slap them a mental high-five. Same with Lala Vazquez and Carmelo Anthony. Because even though I’m smack dab in what will apparently be eternal singledom, I’m genuinely happy for any couple who finds each other, from celebrity mash-ups to the odd little pair who lives down the block. Even with all the bells and whistles of the new millennium, there’s nothing like a good ol’ fashioned love story. 

My second reaction was a bit more reflective: I wonder if Keyshia and her bestie and fellow songstress Monica, who got married herself back in the beginning of the year, will inspire their fans, maybe even their fellow single mothers, to believe in the institution of marriage? Even reach for it? It would’ve been nothing for either one of them to take the new-age route and shack up instead of making it official. It’s the modern way of getting to happily ever after. Times have changed and getting hitched isn’t even necessary anymore in order for a man and woman to be content, functional, and socially accepted.  

And that may work for some folks. To them and others who just don’t think it’s that deep, first comes love, second comes marriage, then comes the lady with the baby carriage is a rhyme that didn’t mean much more beyond the  playground in elementary school. But to me, it’s the natural order of things, the way the good Lord intended them to be, the modus operandi that makes the most logical sense. I had to find this out the hard way, though: I consciously made the choice to lie down as a teenager with my good, common sense floating somewhere between good sex and first love and create a baby with a man I wasn’t married to. 

So now, after besting 12 years of single motherhood and nine more months on top of that of being a “baby mama,” I see now that there is a reason why you should wait to be married before you have little ones. This ish ain’t easy solo. Not that having a husband makes life a cakewalk, but if you’ve picked the right dude, you’ve got a partner to help shoulder and share the responsibilities that come with being a parent, a homeowner — heck, an adult in general. 

I don’t know what any of these relationships look like from the inside, whether they’re genuinely happy, whether they’re actually, factually in love or whether they keep their distance and come together only for photo ops and public appearances. What goes on in their homes is privy only to them and the close companions that may or may not someday write tell-all books. I’m talking about what these couples represent.

Despite the dismal statistics about black love, all this recent vow exchanging is a good look for the 14 and 16 year and 18 year-old girls all wrapped up in their celebrity worship. Maybe they’ll wait until they’re married with a hot-to-death career before they have a baby, just like Beyonce. Hey, if that’s what inspires them to hold out, then I’m all for it. Celebrities wield such heavy influence over what so kids do, say, and believe that Mrs. Carter’s decision to do it the right way — yep, I intentionally left the quotation marks off — just might spark a positive trend. Now that’s a story I’d be ready and eager to read about.

Do you think celebrities who get married will positively influence kids to wait to do the same?

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