The 16 Most Brutal Breakups in 'Bachelor' History (PHOTOS)

Nicole Pomarico | Oct 15, 2015 TV

Sure, The Bachelor and The Bachelorette (and all their various spin-offs) are supposed to be about finding true love, but more often, they're about dramatic, awful breakups. At the end of every season, the leading man or lady has broken up with literally dozens of people by the time the proposal happens. And even when it does work out after the finale? Couples still aren't immune to breakups, and they happen all the time. 

And as you probably already know, some of these breakups? Way worse than others. Something about the combination of reality TV and emotions running high brings out the worst in people. Add social media fuel to the fire, and you have the recipe for the perfect dramatic breakup. 

But which breakups were the worst? Click through to find out! 


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  • Andi Dorfman & Josh Murray


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    Andi and Josh seemed meant to be when they got engaged during the Bachelorette finale, but unfortunately, it didn't end so well. They announced their breakup in January 2015, and since then, they've thrown a few cryptic tweet-shaped gauntlets at each other from a distance on social media.  

  • Jason Mesnick & Melissa Rycroft


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    Jason brought the entire world in on their breakup when he dumped his original choice, Melissa, for his runner-up, Molly Malaney, during the After The Final Rose special after their finale aired. Um, awkward? Maybe it was for the best, though, because Jason and Molly are now happily married with children.

  • Kaitlyn Bristowe & Nick Viall


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    It's never easy when a Bachelor or a Bachelorette star has to say good-bye to her runner-up, but it has to happen at some point to get to happily ever after. Unfortunately, Nick didn't take it well when Kaitlyn told him she was choosing Shawn -- like, at all. He was pretty pissed in his limo ride back to the airport, and to be honest, it was really hard to blame him. Poor guy! 

  • Juan Pablo Galavis & Andi Dorfman


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    Honestly, Andi Dorfman hasn't had the best experiences on The Bachelor ... and her first try might have been her worst. Although she was definitely into Juan Pablo, his bad qualities kept worming their way to the surface, and eventually, it was easy to see that they weren't the right match. As soon as Andi realized the only person Juan Pablo cared about was himself, she was out of there. 

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  • Matt Grant & Shayne Lamas


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    When Shayne and Matt split, neither of them talked pleasantly about each other in the press, and then, Shayne did something pretty terrible: She tried to out him in her blog. Um, yeah, we'd say that's not taking a breakup too well. 

  • Ian Thomson & Kaitlyn Bristowe


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    On The Bachelorette, Ian decided he wasn't getting enough time with Kaitlyn, and because of it, he thought the best way to make an exit was ... to insult her? Yep, he ripped Kaitlyn a new one, calling her shallow and mocking her sense of humor (as well as what the rest of the guys in the mansion thought was funny). Kaitlyn wasn't amused, and barely batted an eye when he sent himself home. 

  • Britt Nilsson & Chris Soules


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    After spending most of the season focused on Britt and Britt only, Chris decided to break things off with her after he bought into the rumors that the other women were spreading about her hating his tiny hometown of Arlington, Iowa. Britt's good-bye was incredibly emotional, and it was even worse when they came face-to-face again during After The Final Rose. 

  • Juan Pablo Galavis & Clare Crawley


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    Oh, Juan Pablo. After basically having sex with Clare Crawley in the ocean, he refused to tell her he loved her -- only that he loved you-know-what-ing her. Obviously, this was enough for Clare to send herself packing, because duh. 

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  • Joe Bailey & Samantha Steffen


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    When Samantha arrived on the scene in Bachelor in Paradise, she brought the drama when she swept in and stole Joe out from under Juelia's nose -- and then she brought even more when she decided she was done with him. But it was nothing compared to the way Joe took the news, as he vowed to get his revenge on her. Yeah, pretty sure he's the biggest villain the show has ever seen.

  • Emily Maynard & Kalon McMahon


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    It was obvious that Kalon was not the one for Emily when he referred to her daughter as "baggage," and, understandably, Emily totally lost it on him. Children are not baggage, for the record, so we were totally on Emily's side for this one. 

  • Desiree Hartsock & Brooks Forester


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    Brooks broke Desiree's heart when he decided he was done on The Bachelorette, and it was so hard to see her so sad. Everything happens for a reason, though -- Desiree ended up choosing Chris, and they lived happily ever after. 

  • Andi Dorfman & Nick Viall


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    Andi told Nick before the final rose ceremony that he wouldn't be her pick, but he still didn't take it well. When they came face-to-face on After The Final Rose, he shocked Andi (and us) when he brought up the fact that they had slept together and done "fiancé type stuff" together. Yikes. 

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  • Brad Womack, DeAnna Pappas & Jenni Croft


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    During the final rose ceremony, Brad made a pretty surprising decision: He didn't choose either of his final ladies, sending both DeAnna Pappas and Jenni Croft home without a proposal. There's a first time for everything, right?

  • Becca Tilley & Chris Soules


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    Becca was pretty blindsided when Chris told her he wouldn't be proposing during the Bachelor finale, and stood there in shock as she said good-bye. It was obvious she was pretty upset at the time, but Becca's kept a pretty good sense of humor about things. She's even still friends with Whitney, Chris's chosen leading lady (well, former leading lady, anyway).

  • Carly Waddell & Kirk DeWindt


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    All season long, Kirk and Carly seemed like one of the most solid couples on Bachelor in Paradise ... 'til it came time to make a final decision. Kirk dropped a major bomb on Carly in announcing he still had feelings for his ex, and Carly was completely heartbroken. The bright side: It inspired Carly to write plenty of good breakup songs about him. 

  • Juan Pablo Galavis & Nikki Ferrell


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    The JP and Nikki breakup? Well, it was always coming, but it's like it happened in slow motion. At first, he didn't propose or drop any L-bombs during the finale, even though Nikki was more than ready to commit. And later, not even a stint on VH1's Couples Therapy was enough to help them.

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