Ali Fedotowsky Says Kaitlyn Bristowe Isn't the Only 'Bachelorette' Who Had Sex With Her Suitors

If you caught The Bachelorette this week — or follow anyone from Bachelor Nation on Twitter — you're more than aware that Kaitlyn Bristowe is dealing with a ton of criticism for sleeping with surprise contestant Nick Viall before fantasy suite dates. 


In the real world, two people who are dating who also have sex wouldn't exactly be news, but in Bach world, it's kind of a big deal. Unless you talk to Ali Fedotowsky, who says sex actually happens all the time.

This week, the former Bachelorette blogged about the flack Kaitlyn's getting for her smooching habits, and the fact that sleeping with one of the contestants is really not as unheard of as ABC would have us believe. She wrote: 

It makes me SO angry that there is such a double standard in this world when it comes to men and women having sex. I can assure you that Kaitlyn is NOT the first person to have sex with someone on the show. In fact, I would argue that 95% of the Bachelors and Bachelorettes DO have sex on the show. Sure, Kaitlyn did it before the infamous fantasy suite, but does that really matter? I’ve heard Mike Fleiss (the creator of the show) say that one of the Bachelors had sex with something like 6 of his 25 women!!! I’m not going to say who that Bachelor is, but people didn’t slut shame him. So stop judging Kaitlyn for following her heart annnnnnd her vagina ;)

I'm not going to pretend I'm not seriously curious about who exactly Mike Fleiss was talking about, but the bottom line is, as fans, it's none of our business — and the same goes for Kaitlyn's choices, too. If she wants to have sex, she should, and she shouldn't be made to feel ashamed for it. She's finding a husband, here! If she feels a test drive is neccessary, a test drive is necessary.

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Ali also dished on kissing situation, something else Kaitlyn's been criticized for this season.

"I remember when I was The Bachelorette and I had to be SO careful about kissing the guys and other guys seeing," she wrote. "I mean OBVIOUSLY you’re going to kiss more than one guy when you are expected to find your husband out of 25 random guys in less than 3 months. Intimacy matters in a relationship and you have to test the waters!" 

Is there a chance that Ali can start acting as the official Bachelorette advisor from here on out? I have a feeling she'd make this process a whole lot easier for us all.

Does Kaitlyn deserve the criticism she's getting, or does everyone need to give her a break? 

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