Husband Shares the Ultimate Reminder for New Dads Whose Partners Are Breastfeeding

Muhammed Nitoto takes a selfie as his wife breastfeeds beside him
Muhammed Nitoto/Facebook

Every August, a flood of new social media posts come our way in hopes of promoting Breastfeeding Awareness Month. Sometimes, they share one mother's incredible breastfeeding journey; other times, they unite breastfeeding moms from all walks of life, who share both their struggles and their triumphs. Either way, the message is almost always the same: What breastfeeding moms need most is our support -- not our judgment. A recent Facebook post by dad Muhammed Nitoto is trying to drive home that point one more time, by encouraging other new dads to step up to the plate when it comes to supporting their breastfeeding wives.

  • "Last month was Breastfeeding Awareness Month," the new dad wrote. "So I figured I'd drop some knowledge on my fellow dads and soon-to-be-dads."

    "Here's what it looks like for the first few weeks or months after your child is born," Nitoto shared in his post Thursday, before launching into what he calls "top 5 tips" any new dad should know about breastfeeding.

    "If mom breastfeeds they pretty much are tucked like this and at times you'll wonder, 'What is there for me to do?'" he began. 

    The answer? There's A LOT you can do.

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  • Tip No. 1? Pitch in during night feedings.

    "When mom wakes up in the middle of the night, you get up and ask if she needs any help or water," Nitoto advises. "The truth is most of the time she will say no but just the fact that you offered will go far."

    TRUE. THAT.

  • If Mom can pump, Nitoto wrote, pick one feeding that you can do.

    "Mom will take on almost everything and will burn herself out if you let her," the experienced papa added. "At times you may have to force her to rest without worrying about the baby. This is an easy way to do that without a fight." 

    He also cautioned other dads not to put a time limit on how long their wives choose to breastfeed -- be it six months, a year, or more. And to that, I would just like to say: A-M-E-N.

    "It's not just about feeding your child it's about them bonding as well," he explained. "I know everyone has a different length of time they will breastfeed and as a dad it's hard to fully understand."

    Whatever dads do, though, Nitoto strongly advised against trying to rush the process, saying, "it's not our place and it's not safe. You will open yourself up to a fight you can't win."

    (Truer words have never been spoken.)

  • Lastly, he wrote, be patient -- and TAKE PATERNITY LEAVE! (That is, if you have it.)

    "I know as a dad the first few weeks we are equally excited and yet not as important yet," Nitoto wrote. "Your time will come faster than you know. Babies grow fast and the stronger bigger they get the more 'Daddy Time' will be coming your way."

    But even if Mom is the main attraction now for the baby, who has spent nine long months hanging out in her womb and still needs to remain close during breastfeeding, it doesn't mean Dad isn't playing an important role too.

    "The early stages of a child's life are not just for moms to enjoy," Nitoto added, saying that although going back to work and making that money might feel like the most important thing right now, it's not.

    "You can always make money," he continued, "but there are no instant replays in life. It doesn't make you more of a man to not take the [paternity] leave. It's equally as important that you as a Dad get to be a part of the early development of your child."

  • His post has gone so viral, it's been shared more than 30K times.

    Most of those shares have been from new moms, who have tagged their partners by the thousands, along with comments like, "Read this. I love you."

    Still, it's hard not to draw comparisons to another "tips for new dads" post that went viral last month. That one was also penned by father Paul Spadone, and it was intended to be inspiring, supportive, and encouraging. However, reactions to the missive were mixed on Facebook, and in the comments, moms debated whether Spadone's post was supportive or downright offensive. 

    That's because a lot of Spadone's commentary centered on how a woman's breasts change after breastfeeding -- and to hear him describe it, most of that change is not for the better.

    "The mystery and resulting excitement of seeing your woman’s breasts will forever be gone," he wrote, following it up with: "New Fathers, heed my warning. Sagging will occur! Do your best to burn the image of your woman’s breasts in your mind pre-pregnancy because those hooters will no longer be the same." (Yes, seriously.)

    And although he repeatedly reminded dads to stay positive and supportive, the message sure got lost when he tacked on things like this: "In summary, your woman is now a cash cow (think about the money you are saving!) and the bottom line is that those boobies, breasts, knockers, hooters, whatever you want to call them, are now the life source to your new child."

    Ahem. Yep.

    But for all the ire Spadone's post sparked, Nitoto's is bringing nothing but heart emojis so far. And the truth is, it's kind of just amazing to see new dads talking open and honestly about this facet of parenthood that traditionally only women spoke out about before. 

    So yeah -- more of that please, dads! (Just with less of the "her boobs are never gonna be the same again bro!")