9 Things Parents Should Do Differently If They Want to Stop Toddler Tantrums


Any parent of a child who has neared or passed the age of 2 has probably already handled a fair share of tantrums. The crying, the screaming, the fascinating ability to seemingly become boneless in the middle of the supermarket -- it's all a part of a normal rite of passage: the toddler tantrum phrase.

But how can we know whether we're actually helping our child learn to stop having meltdowns, or if we're enabling the bad behavior?


How to handle the chaos is, of course, completely up to the parent, and no two children are exactly alike, so tactics can vary greatly -- even within a single family. But one of the hardest challenges to dealing with the ever-evolving tantrum is trying to decipher when our kids really need something from us or when they simply want their way. And sometimes it's a combination of the two.

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We put this challenge to the experts: a mix of psychologists, therapists, and in-the-know parents who shed a little light on what we're doing right, wrong, and what we could be doing a little bit better.

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And we received a lot of helpful insight. For example, who knew there are two main types of tantrums, and each should be handled very differently? Plus, they let us know when it's okay to give in -- after all, no one can be a strict parent all the time. 

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