Down With Princesses and Barbies!

Disney Princesses and Barbies beware, there's a new doll in town that will have all the feminist mamas clamoring: the Bronte sister action dolls!

OK, so it's kind of a farce, but the statement is clear: how amazing would it be if, instead of looking up to dazzling blondes with little brain capacity, our toddlers looked up to women who were talented, smart, and literate?

My 3.5-year-old daughter is such a lost cause. She has fallen head-over-heels for the Disney Princess thing and there is no turning back. In fact, as I write this, she is sitting in the television room, wearing her Cinderella dress, and watching (what else?) Cinderella. How meta!


It isn't that I hate girly things. In fact, I love them. But what I failed to realize is how incredibly insidious they would be and how they would creep into my daughter's life so that she can scarcely remember where Belle ends and she begins (she often asks us to refer to her as either "The Princess" or "Cinderella").

It's far more consuming (and consumer) than I expected. So check these out:

I'm not that mom who hates this stuff on principle or who thinks that her daughter will be destroyed because these girls value beauty. What bothers me is how all-consuming it is. If she were into trucks and Barbies or princesses and Legos, it would be fine.

But she isn't.

My daughter is all princess all the time. She opens her closet with a flourish each morning and demands to wear "something beautiful." She has each princess dress and loves to wear them just about everywhere. I'm all for the intrinsic value of beauty and girlishness, but not to the exclusion of all else.

It's possible that my daughter is just the kind to develop passion (can't imagine where she got that ...) but it would be nice to see her interests expand a bit. She is welcome to be girly, too. I just want to see balance.

Is your daughter frilly and frou-frou and girly?


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