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As moms, we all make different choices for different reasons. We work outside the home, we work from home, we stay at home. I'm cool with all that. But, here's what gets my goat.

A mom I know (let's call her M) describes herself as a "stay at home mom," and she's always talking about how much she loves it because she gets to be with her son, blah, blah, blah. My problem with this: she never stays at home—at least not if her kid is there.

Two full days a week, M has a babysitter come in. M kisses her two-year-old tot goodbye (I hope) and takes off for her personal trainer, her private Pilates class, coffee with a friend, a day of beauty, or a day of shopping.

Two full days a week, M drops her son off at nursery school and takes off for her personal trainer, her private Pilates class, coffee with a friend, a day of beauty, a day shopping (or she stays at home and watches TV and socializes on Facebook).

One full day a week, M drops her kid off at a daycare center, and takes off ...

I'm not sure why this bothers me so much. If M was going off to work every day I wouldn't care. And I do believe every mom is entitled to take time out for herself—and doing it every day is M's prerogative. I know first-hand how monotonous staying home with a two-year-old every day can be. But M never seems to take time in for her kid.

Ultimately, it's the bragging that gets me. "I just love being a stay-at-home mom!" is her mantra. I just wish that once in a while she'd actually spend some time with her son. I'll bet he does too.

What do you think? Am I being too harsh? Please help me see her point of view.

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