Mom Confession: I Don't Like To Show Physical Affection

I love cuddling and hugging my kids! thats sad...your childrens are going to grow up with some serious "touchy-feely" issues if you don't start showing some affection mama!

I am not a touchy-feely type of person with any kid, even most adults (mainly just my DH who gets hugs and kisses and "I love yous" from me), but the moment my daughter was born I couldn't stop hugging and kissing her, and holding her.  She's now 3 and there's not a moment that goes by where I don't want to give her a kiss or a hug or hold her in my arms (luckily I'm still able to do all that, and she's now a very affectionate toddler!).  I hope even when she's in her 20's or 30's or however old she'll still be able to give me a hug and a kiss and say I love you!

You have to suck it up and get over it, because otherwise it's going to cause issues with your kids.  Physical affection is proven to help make neural connections.  They're going to learn from you that physical affection isn't something "they do" and that will translate to their adult lives as well.

You may have a hormone imbalance or possibly even some depression.  Hormones can often put people off to physical touch.

Either way, you have to fix this because it's going to affect your kids in a bad way.  I'd talk to your doctor about it, and hopefully you can find a solution.

Wow. I have a hard time comprehending how someone could not want to love on their kids! I understand some people are raised to be more conservative with their affections but honestly if someone has issues with even holding hands with their child, than I'd say there is a big problem. I hug and kiss on my 3 y/os constantly! Sadly, they are starting to get to an age where they don't want my constant affection. I feel like I need to get as much of it in now before they grow up anymore!

when i had my first i admit i was weird about showing affection in front of people. i guess b/c i didnt know what to do and i was embarassed. i know that seems so weird but i think i didnt want anyone to think i was doing it wrong and half the time i didnt know what to do b/c i didnt grow up with babies around me at all, no babysitting or younger siblings or cousins. obviously i held my baby in front of people but i wasnt overly lovey-dovey. now i cant get enough of it from her or my 2nd [son]. i dont care what people see anymore or if they think i am being goofy.

Maybe that mom should get some help.

I don't have a problem hugging and kissing my kids but my sister kind of does. Her older daughters are 12 and 11. They used to sit up against her, hoping for a hug I think and my sis would get annoyed and push them away telling them to quit leaning on her! It used to bother me when she would do that to them but now I tell myself that is just how she is. She shows she loves them in other ways. So I just make sure when they come to me for a hug, I make sure it is a big hug and they like to ask for kisses so I make sure I do that for them.

I'm not a touchy-feely person either, with anyone including my husband.  He basically has to force me to hug him because I don't like being touched.  Even when my kids were newborns/infants I couldn't stand holding them for more then like 20 minutes before I would feel like I couldn't breathe.  So I would put them down or hand them to my husband and come back 20 minutes later to hold them again.  The bigger they got the less I could stand having them on top of me all the time.  I still give hugs and kisses but I don't particularly like it.  It feels uncomfortable.  I was the same way as a child, much to my mother's disappointment.  She, thankfully, didn't force the issue.  Can't remember the last time I hugged her (probably when I was like 8 or 9 (she died when I was 23).  It's just how I am.  Nothing happened to me.  I just don't like being touched or showing affection.  But, like with everything else, I do my best.

I don't give my son the attention he need. Now he lack in development. I blame myself.