Mom Confessions: I'm Afraid My Husband Is Going to Die


mom confessionsIt's time for a Mom Confession — because, let's face it, we're real mothers and sometimes it doesn't work the way the parenting books say it should.

This Week's Confession:

I'm afraid my husband is going to die.

I'm scared to death that dh will not come home from his next deployment, and I will fall into a horrible depression and turn to drugs or alcohol or something. -- dre_bunny


Do you worry often that your spouse/partner is going die?

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sandr... sandraberke

i so want to offer some conforting words right now. but i cant. all i can say is we can hope that he wont. but we as army familys sign'd up for this. this is just one thing that goes with the teriotory. especially during deployment. hell i didnt get any sleep last night b/c my husband told me he was going to volunteer to go over there early.  and were TTC # 3. if you ever need someoen to talk to message me...

RanaA... RanaAurora

My husband is military, but when he was deployed, it was on submarines.  There is some major risks there, but I didn't worry non-stop.  I'm more scared of him driving at night.

I'm much more terrified something will happen to my kids.

kmg0528 kmg0528

My husband is a Marine and is deployed to Afghanistan right now, so yes, I understand. I pray every single day for his safe return home. If he died, I don't think I would turn to drugs or alcohol, but I do think that I would need some SERIOUS help and medicine. I might literally lose my mind. My husband means absolutely everything to me!

fmchavez fmchavez

My husband works near powerlines and his co-workers have had some close calls, including one death in the last year. I know he tries his damnedest to stay safe, but I still worry. One slip and I'm a widow.

ethan... ethans_momma06

As odd as this sounds, my DH is not in the military and I STILL worry that he will die. First of all...he drives for his job...he's a technician and that means a lot, a lot of road time. Did you know that one person dies every 13 min. from a car accident. DIES. So, very very freaked out about that.

Also, he's a heavy smoker so I worry about the dreaded 'lung cancer' not such a suprise, suprise.

The important thing to remember is that no one is here forever, we need to live each moment to the fullest with them!

halfp... halfpintboling

You cannot live your life constantly worrying about him dying. Trust me. I became a widow at the age of 29. No one wants that phone call, or " the" car pulling up in the front of their house.  My husband was a firefighter killed in the line of duty. I was left to raise my five year old alone, and really had no idea how I was to go on.  It was the most terrible experience of my life. When I renarried, I had to tell him every time he walked out the door that I loved him and to be careful.  I would be completely insane if I thought about it all the time. I just try to put it at the back of my mind and live each day in thanks for him. It totally puts things in perspective and reminds you of what really matters- and does'nt matter in life.  Wrap your arms a little tighter around your loved ones and let them know how much you love them. My late husbands last words to us were "I love you both", and we will always have that.

Trini... Trinity12.06.08

I did not vote because my current SO, also the father of my daughter, is lazy and sits at home all day and night so there isn't much for me to worry about right now....

But I feel terrible that you are thinking those thoughts. I know it must be tough because of the situation you are in, but keep your head up and remember that he is doing EVERYTHING he can to make sure he makes it back home to you and yours.

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