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Mom Confessions: I Don't Like Being a Stay-at-Home Mom.

by Sheri Reed on September 18, 2009 at 11:00 AM

mom confessionsIt's time for a Mom Confession — because, let's face it, we're real mothers and sometimes it doesn't work the way the parenting books say it should.

This Week's Confession:

I don't like being a stay-at-home mom.

I really don't like staying home and can't wait until I go back to work. I am stressed out some days with just one toddler. I stay home because my husband makes good money, so I went back to college. -- Mom2Just1

Question: Are you satisfied/dissatisfied with your current motherhood role?
  1. I also dislike being an SAHM. 35%
  2. I am a working mom and wish I could be a SAHM. 8%
  3. I'm happy being a SAHM. 31%
  4. I'm happy being a working mom. 8%
  5. I wish my husband or partner would stay home with the kid(s). 2%
  6. Other (write in below) 13%
Total Votes: 198
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We all have secrets and opinions — so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation non-judgemental!

Do you have a Mom Confession you want to share? PM me. We can share your confession with your CafeMom screenname or anonymously.

Past Confessions:

I Have a Family, But I'm Lonely

I Lie and Say I'm "Working" to Avoid Playing

I Let My Son Fall Asleep to DVDs

I Don't Shield My Kids' Eyes from Nudity

I Use Housecleaning to Avoid Playing With My Kids

I Am Not a Fun Mom

I Don't Set Up Play Dates for My Kids

I Wish I Had a Fulfilling Career Outside the Home

I Use My Kid's Flushable Toilet Wipes

I'm Going to Disney Without My Children

I Bribe My Children

I Hate Reading Children's Books

I Sleep Naked With My Toddler

I Hate My Neighbor's Kid

I Don't Like to Play

I Sleep While My Kid Is Up

My Kid Watches TV Up Close

I Let My Toddler Play Outside Alone

I Turn My Kids Over to A Mom I Just Met

My Toddler Wears Crude T-Shirts

I Let My Toddlers Climb Play Equipment Unassisted

My Kids Go to Sleep After Midnight

I Let My Toddlers Go Naked in Public

I Throw Away My Kid's Artwork

I Paid $22 for My Son's Haircut

My Toddlers Eat Pizza for Breakfast

I'm Dying My Toddler's Hair

I Leave My Toddler Alone in the Bath

Our Children Aren't Invited to Our Wedding

I Scold Other People's Kids

I'm on Vacation, But My Kid Is Still Going to Day Care

I Favor My Older Child

I Let My Toddler Eat Food Before Paying for It

I Find Excuses to Send My Kids to Bed Early

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  • Punky...


    September 18, 2009 at 11:10 AM

    I am a working mom and I wish I could stay home with my kids but I think I would like to do like a part time thing b/c I think I would go crazy being in the house all the time & need my own time!

  • Agent...


    September 18, 2009 at 1:37 PM

    i love being a SAHM. sure most days i get tired, irritated, annoyed etc with a 2.5 yr old and a 17 month old but i think it is important for the mother to stay at home if possible. i know its not for everybody - either they cant financially or dont like it - but for me i wouldnt have it any other way. people always assume i will go back to work once my youngest is in school. we plan on having more kids so it could be awhile before the youngest is in school, but i dont necessarily want to go back to work just b/c they are in school. i think its just as important for me to be home when my kid is young and also in school, a teen etc. i would love to be able to be like my MIL and stay at home continuously [her youngest is 17 and still stays at home] b/c she is able to volunteer and visit her kids and help them out with various things. b/c she doesnt work she has been able to come to us when we have needed a babysitter for an extended period of time, even though when we lived in VA she had to fly. now we are within driving distance but its still 5-6 hrs.

  • RanaA...


    September 18, 2009 at 1:48 PM

    I'm a SAHM and while there are often times I don't love it, I would HATE working.  Being home with the kids and totally responsible for a lot of things because of it can be mentally (and physically!) draining, but it's temporary and the end result is SO worth it.  My son just started kindergarten, and before I know it, my newborn daughter will be there.  These short years are so important.  Once my kids are in school I'll have plenty of time to do what I want, but in their early years, what they need most is ME.

  • Jesse...


    September 18, 2009 at 1:58 PM

    Although 95% I love being a SAHM, there are times when I feel like I could do more financially to help.  I could get a part time job  to help and still be home with the kids.  Although that would make it rough too because then I wouldn't have the freedom I have now to go on trips when it works with my hubby.  So it is hard either way. 

  • piwife


    September 18, 2009 at 4:57 PM

    i am sahm and  well i  dont love it so much. i cantw ait to go back to work. but am gonna wait till my youngest is 1 1/2 his 7 mts

  • toria...


    September 18, 2009 at 5:19 PM

    I love working! I work three days a week, plus I'm doing my masters online full time. My daughter loves daycare, and we enjoy our time together in the afternoons and evenings.

  • cmr123x


    September 18, 2009 at 6:57 PM

    I love being a sahm, it's the best job I ever had.  I am lucky to be a sahm to watch my kids grow up and learn new things. I feel sorry though for my husband who only gets about an hour and a half to spend with our kids a day because he works full time and misses all the mild stones of their baby years.  It would tear me up inside if I had to leave my kids that long. 

  • momof...


    September 18, 2009 at 7:16 PM

    I am a SAHM too of 1 toddler and I LOVE IT! I wouldn't trade it. I get to be with my daughter, teach her, clean house, make big dinners, etc. I will go to work when my daughter goes to VPK. I will be so sad too! We do sacrifice a lot of things b/c we only have one income but this is a season in our lives that we are all happy with.

  • nily


    September 18, 2009 at 10:58 PM

    I'm in the in between I LOVE to be with my my son and I wouldn't change that for any work in the world. But I confess I HATE to be here at home doing nothing. Is true and I'm not lazy but when you do the laundry, housework, buy groceries and your kid sleeps what's left?...NOTHING. It drives me crazy I miss working and seeing other people. So I recently complain to my hubby and he put me in charge of a office supply store  that he just open here. I'm very happy because I can work and be with my baby at the same time. I start on MONDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • boizmom


    September 19, 2009 at 11:18 AM

    90% of the time I love being a SAHM.  Now that my kids are getting a little older and going through different stages, staying home with them is getting harder for me.  Plus I am pregnant with baby number 3 so my days as a SAHM just got longer and harder.  I appreciate that I am able to stay home and raise my children, but I don't ever get to do anything without one or all my children with me.  My husband at least gets out of the house on a daily basis, something I cannot say for myself.  I think that both SAHMs and working moms have tough situations.  Usually one would want to do what the other does.  I am just counting down the years to when all my children are in school so that I can start back to work at least part time.

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