Mom Confessions: I Have a Family, But I'm Lonely

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mom confessionsIt's time for a Mom Confession — because, let's face it, we're real mothers and sometimes it doesn't work the way the parenting books say it should.

This Week's Confession:

I have a family, but I'm lonely.

I feel awful even saying this... I have a great husband and three healthy kids, ages 1.5, 3, and 7, but I'm lonely. To my core, I feel lonely. My husband and I don't get much quality time alone together. We're always on the go or exhausted. I have a few girlfriends close by, but we're all busy with our families. When we do get together, it's rushed and not always meaningful. I find myself longing for the days when I felt connected to other adults in a real way. Am I crazy?  -- anonymous

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nonmember avatar DreamerMom

I'm a SAHM for the last 10 years to two children, 9 and 6. I found this site by googling "lost myself to motherhood". I am like a drone that goes through the motions. I sit around until something or someone needs me, then I get up and do do do. I volunteer at the school, but it is just to keep me busy. I don't want to be kept busy like I'm a toddler. I used to have dreams, hopes, enthusiasm for the future. Now I don't look forward to anything. In fact, the future looks full of nothing but yuck, the kids growing up, me getting old and a marriage that hasn't had a great deal of life in it for years. Why would I look forward? I keep looking back and questioning where I got off track, but there is nothing. I married well, educated myself well (hold a master's degree) and am an excellent mother. So why am I so empty?

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