Mom Confessions: I Don't Set Up Play Dates for My Kids


mom confessionsIt's time for a Mom Confession — because, let's face it, we're real mothers and sometimes it doesn't work the way the parenting books say it should.

This Week's Confession:

I don't make play dates for my kids.

My husband and I work full time, and my kids are in school/childcare full time. Both the kids get lots of social interaction with other kids at school and their childcare facilities. We attend church, and they do some extra activities like sports part of the year. However, I can't help but feel badly for not setting up additional play dates with their friends. Between work and busy weeknights and weekends, it just seems impossible. At the same time, I'm worried my kids (and maybe my husband and me) are missing out a building richer friendships with other families. -- anonymous


Do you feel badly for not setting up play dates, outside of daycare, school, and other activities, for your kids?

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We all have secrets and opinions — so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation non-judgemental!

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Momma... MommaTasha1003

If a child is in preschool/daycare/ sports/has family same age/ playgrounds often.. I think that is good enough! Feel NO guilt!

Now keeping your toddler at home & never taking him out to interact with other kids -ever- now maybe that would be something to feel guilty about!

gulfc... gulfcoastmom4

I have never done playdates. And I have never felt guilty about it.

nonmember avatar lisa

I don't set up many play dates either and I know my child wants more. She is very social and very bright and tries to arrange them for herself. However, we attend a private school and it just seems like the parents are so clicky and judgmental and some of the kids, well, many are brattty. Our child, however, just got an award for her impecable manners.
We would rather see her be with us than be around this or children who are not nice to her. Are we being too overprotective? Also, we are Christians and busy and do not volunteer at the school like others.
I have really agonized over this and want my daughter to have lasitng relationships, but even some of the girls at our church are excluding her. I don't know what to do. Am thinking about homeschooling, HELP

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