Mom Confessions: I Hate My Neighbor's Kid

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mom confessionsIt's time for a Mom Confession -- because, let's face it, we're real mothers and sometimes it doesn't work the way the parenting books say it should.

This Week's Confession:

-- I can't stand my neighbors' kids, and I'd really love to tell them to stay off our property. Unfortunately, my own toddlers love them, even though they are mean, spoiled and manipulative. Their parents never discipline them when they push, steal toys or cause trouble -- we send ours to their rooms all the time! It's just not fair. -- anonymous

-- I hate dealing with neighbor kids. I want my children to have friends, but I don't want to deal with the kids, sleep-overs, and feeding the entire neighborhood (if they had their way). I just hate having to repeatedly say no to someone else's kid! -- anonymous

 

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Should neighbor kids abide by your rules when outside on your property? Do you have the right to reprimand them?

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Do you like your neighbors' children? Were there ever issues between them and your kids? How did you resolve those problems?

We all have secrets and opinions -- so thanks to these brave moms for sharing their honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation non-judgemental!

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I Let My Toddler Play Outside Alone

I Turn My Kids Over to A Mom I Just Met

My Toddler Wears Crude T-Shirts

I Let My Toddlers Climb Play Equipment Unassisted

My Kids Go to Sleep After Midnight

I Let My Toddlers Go Naked in Public

I Throw Away My Kid's Artwork

I Paid $22 for My Son's Haircut

My Toddlers Eat Pizza for Breakfast

I'm Dying My Toddler's Hair

I Leave My Toddler Alone in the Bath

Our Children Aren't Invited to Our Wedding

I Scold Other People's Kids

I'm on Vacation, But My Kid Is Still Going to Day Care

I Favor My Older Child

I Let My Toddler Eat Food Before Paying for It

I Find Excuses to Send My Kids to Bed Early

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epoh epoh

I cannot stand my neighbor's kids. Well, just the son. He is disrespectful and rude. He beats on his little sister, destroys my property, pushes my toddler out of the way so he can play on her toddler sized slide--he's 8. Its gotten to the point that whenever he steps foot in my yard, I tell him to leave. RIGHT now. And I'm not joking. Sometimes I have to tell him several times. If his parents can't teach him to mind, then he does not need to be coming to my home.

Banan... Bananas4Jesus

I think that you should not allow your children to play with them. For one, it is far easier for your children to learn bad behavior from those kids than for those kids to learn good behavior from yours. Raising your children is the greatest blessing, and the greatest responsibility.



Just find them a new play group or something, and slowly remove them from playing wit the neighbors kids.

Gaia_... Gaia_Rain

My neighbor's kid is a little sadistic psycho who is one step away from, "Let's go and skin that cat alive and see what happens!"  She is NOT allowed at my house, EVER.

Momof... Momof3cuties

If they are in my yard, playing with my kids....it's my rules or leave...period.  If the parents dont' like it, then they don't need to be here.  Luckily I love my neighbors kids.  One set of neighbors happen to be some of our closest friends and our girls are very close.  I don't care if they correct my DD & they don't mind me correcting theirs...we help each other...mom's only have one set of eyes....It's nice when it works out that way!  I realize not everyone is so blessed!

lucho... luchousdiva

I am military so we are always moving and man the neighbor who just moved her kids were down right brats.  Everytime they were outside they would blame everything on someone else.  Even when other neighbors would see them doing it and tell the parents they would say well my kids  said that the other kid started it.  I just can't stand it.  Glad that I don't have to live by them anymore.

ke11y... ke11yturtle

My problem isn't my neighbor's kid, it's my friends' kids. There's an almost 2 year old who is a brat. I caught her pushing my son and her brother down so she could play on my son's toy. I told her no pushing or the toy would be taken away in front of her parents. They don't mind.


Then, there's the 15 month old (3 weeks younger than my son TO THE DAY). She is just a spoiled little brat and I hate having her around. If your attention is diverted somewhere else, she cries and screams. She picks up everything and puts it in her mouth. And her mom just accepts that she's gonna be spoiled.

madam... madamekatekate

I think anyone who has another person's child on their property (whether they have been expressly invited or not) has the right to enforce rules on that child. Granted you wouldn't want to incorporate spanking with a stranger's child but you are well within your right to verbally set forth all the rules of your household and send the other children home should they not follow them.


When I was younger my little brother had this "friend" who was a few years older than he. This kid was a *blank* who constantly lied and stole and ruined (brand new ones, no less) my brother's toys. And we didn't have a whole lot back then but to this boy who had close to nothing I'm sure we looked like "rich folk." This child's mother was completely unwilling to police her son and so when he was over my Mom did. The first time he cursed in our house was the last. And when he continually lied about ruining and taking my brother's toys he was not allowed over, even in the yard. We eventually moved out of that neighborhood and away from the horror that was that boy but to this day I think my Mother taking on a disciplinary role with a child that was not hers might have helped that boy just the slightest bit.


Or at least one can hope.

nonmember avatar anonymous

I cannot stand my neighbors kids. They are rotten, but their parents, one a big time PGA golfer, never believe me when I tell them the things they say and do to my kids and others. I wish they would move and get out of my life........

nonmember avatar Cat

How about the old rule of STAY IN YOUR OWN YARD TO PLAY? Ranting here...but I am tired of the neighborhood kids thinking they can come play in my yard whenever they feel like it. I enjoy my privacy, and it irks me to have other people's kids running around my yard disturbing my peace and quiet. My own children have been taught to respect other people's property and privacy, why does it make us the bad guys to expect the same treatment? Also, WHERE are these other parents? Why aren't they watching their children? There are youngsters as young as 2 and 3 that are allowed to run free with no supervision. I don't get it. Good parenting is becoming a thing of the past.

georg... georgeesmom

I hate the little girl next door yet my daughter is in love with her. she's only there part time, her parents are divorced, the moms a flake and although the dad is a nice guy he never pays attention. the girl runs into the road, treats my daughter like a dog(go get the ball) and never listens to a word i say. i understand the fault is mostly the parents but i dont want her bad attitude to rub off on my little girl

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