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Mom Confession: My Kids Go to Bed After Midnight

by Cynthia Dermody on March 20, 2009 at 2:56 PM

mom confessionsIt's time for a Mom Confession -- because, let's face it, we're real mothers and sometimes it doesn't work the way the parenting books say it should.

This Week's Confession:

I have three kids under three, and we all go to bed after midnight and wake up at 11 a.m. the next day.

Question: Does it matter when toddlers go to sleep each night?
  1. No, as long as they are getting enough rest, who cares? 51%
  2. Yes, that is just not a "real world" schedule and eventually it will mess them up. 40%
  3. Other 7%
Total Votes: 474
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Do you believe in traditional sleep hours for toddlers? Is there any harm in letting a toddler keep teenager hours? Is there any reason you could think of that would make this wrong?

We all have secrets and opinions -- so thanks to these brave moms for sharing their honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation non-judgemental!

Past Confessions:

I Let My Toddlers Go Naked in Public

I Throw Away My Kid's Artwork

I Paid $22 for My Son's Haircut

My Toddlers Eat Pizza for Breakfast

I'm Dying My Toddler's Hair

I Leave My Toddler Alone in the Bath

Our Children Aren't Invited to Our Wedding

I Scold Other People's Kids

I'm on Vacation, But My Kid Is Still Going to Day Care

I Favor My Older Child

I Let My Toddler Eat Food Before Paying for It

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Comments

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  • Misan...
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    MisanthropKitty

    March 20, 2009 at 3:16 PM

    my son is 15months and goes to bed between 11-12 each night and we get up around 10... it works for us so i dont change it


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    mommyuphold

    March 20, 2009 at 3:17 PM

    My kids set the schedule here, unless I have something like a doctors appt. It has always been this way. My DS is a night owl and will stay up past midnight and sleep till 10am. My DD is a morning person up at 7am and bed at 9, unless she is teething, which she is right now.I am a mix so it works out good for us.


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    ceallaigh

    March 20, 2009 at 3:21 PM

    I started getting my kids on a "real life" schedule when they were about 3 or 4 so that it wouldn't be such a hassle when it was time to go to school and get up at a regular time.  Besides, I'm the night owl and desperately needed the couple of hours after they went to bed to get anything done!


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    bugs-momma

    March 20, 2009 at 3:24 PM

    It isn't about a real world schedule for me, it is about work. I have to get to bed at a decent hour and get up to go to work. I suppose if you didn't work and had nothing to do, sure let your kid stay up as late as they want. They are going to have one hell of a time trying to adjust to a schedule when school time comes around.


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    mrssundin

    March 20, 2009 at 3:24 PM

    my kids always stay up till midnight, i know that it is not healthy but it is the only way they will get to see there dad.


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    averiensmommy07

    March 20, 2009 at 3:36 PM

    I work till 1230 most nights and my sons at the babysitters, so he goes to bed around two. But we dont have any other choice, my husbands deployed


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    emhain

    March 20, 2009 at 3:49 PM

    I work, so I need the sleep. So my kids go to bed around 8 and 9. But if I were a SAHM... nope. It wouldnm't matter to me at all when they went to bed as long as they got enough rest. They will NOT have trouble adjusting when they go to school- it takes a body one week or less to develop a new internal schedule. They'll be fine.


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    Earth-Angel

    March 20, 2009 at 4:04 PM

    My kids son 10 and dd 4 goes to bed after 11 or so when they don't have school. school days its 9 or 10. I don't think anything of it really! Also, no school etc, they sleep in as long as they want.


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    WillDoDa

    March 20, 2009 at 4:10 PM

    My oldest has never been able to get into a going to bed early schedule. Not for lack of my trying LOL. But I know she will earlier when she has school next year. Just hasnt' come up yet.

    Another reason I often just let it go is because her Daddy gets home after 11 pm and she just loves to see him and when he's gone all day it's the only chance they get to be together and I will not jeopardize that at this point.

    My youngest OTOH goes to bed at 8 pm. Period. She's been a much happier person since I realized she needed that kind of schedule. Works well for her. Goes to show you each kid is different. :)


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    RanaAurora

    March 20, 2009 at 4:15 PM

    If you're a SAHM and they have no daycare or anything, who the hell cares?
    As long as they're getting ENOUGH sleep, does it really matter?

    We used to stay up until about 1am, because with my husband's schedule, if we did a "normal" schedule, he'd have NEVER seen our kiddo awake.  He was leaving for work at 5:30 am so getting up before him wasn't going to happen, and getting home at 10-11pm.  Staying up late was great for us.

    Now that his schedule's a little different, and my kiddo will be starting kindergarten in September, we have a bedtime that puts his "Wake up" time around when he'd need to get up for school.

    What works for different people is what works for THEM.  If you have no daytime schedule, whose to say it isn't a real world schedule or messes them up?  Maybe in YOUR life our schedule wouldn't work, but yours wouldn't work in ours! ;)


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