Mom Confession: My Kids Go to Bed After Midnight


mom confessionsIt's time for a Mom Confession -- because, let's face it, we're real mothers and sometimes it doesn't work the way the parenting books say it should.

This Week's Confession:

I have three kids under three, and we all go to bed after midnight and wake up at 11 a.m. the next day.


Does it matter when toddlers go to sleep each night?

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Do you believe in traditional sleep hours for toddlers? Is there any harm in letting a toddler keep teenager hours? Is there any reason you could think of that would make this wrong?

We all have secrets and opinions -- so thanks to these brave moms for sharing their honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation non-judgemental!

Past Confessions:

I Let My Toddlers Go Naked in Public

I Throw Away My Kid's Artwork

I Paid $22 for My Son's Haircut

My Toddlers Eat Pizza for Breakfast

I'm Dying My Toddler's Hair

I Leave My Toddler Alone in the Bath

Our Children Aren't Invited to Our Wedding

I Scold Other People's Kids

I'm on Vacation, But My Kid Is Still Going to Day Care

I Favor My Older Child

I Let My Toddler Eat Food Before Paying for It



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Jason... JasonsMom2007

Who cares, as long as they are getting enough sleep!

bigbl... bigblueeyes

when our dd was born we were houseparents and were often up til midnight or later and up at 6 in the morning.....she was right there with us!....her and i would usually nap in the she was getting plenty of sleep.....even after we left houseparenting she was still pretty much on that same schedule....mainly because that's just how we were and it fit well with dh's work schedule at the time.....after our ds came along things changed a he's gotten a little older he's not so much of an "early bird" when it comes to bedtime....he also naps most days....we started with a "school" schedule for dd when she was 4 so that she would be ready for kindergarten....she's a first grader this year and a lot of nights she's still up/awake at 11....maybe later....and has to be up by 7.....she doesn't nap when she gets home.....once every few weeks or so she will have an evening when it all catches up with her and she may be in bed by 7 and sleep all night!....she has a set bedtime....but doesn't always observe it!

ITell... ITellItLikeItIs

Because both my husband and I work, we started our kids off going down at hours that were not only beneficial to us, but them in the long run as well, as they would have to get up and go to daycare, and one day they will have to go to school. I don't believe in waiting until the last minute to teach children something. Our kids are in the age bracket that should receive anywhere from 10 to 13 hours of sleep, and they get it, because we make sure they do. It's been proven that children who receive the appropriate amount of sleep concentrate better, can learn things easier, etc. So why would I deprive my children of something that is beneficial to them in so many ways? They are kids, not adults, and they should be in the bed at a reasonable hour.

Lynette Lynette

I tried keeping my kids up late so they would sleep in.  It never works for us.  So bedtime is at a reg time at my house

trebe... trebelcleff

I put other... if you plan on sending your kids to conventional schools (in other words, schools that start in the mid or early morning and get out sometime in the early or mid-afternoon), then my opinion is that it would be better to prepare them for that type of schedule so it isn't as hard when that time comes. If you plan on home-schooling or another type of "free" scheduled schooling, then who cares as long as they get enough sleep! I'd LOVE for my kid to go to bed late and wake up late (my DH and I are both night owls, mostly due to our types of jobs), but we ended up with an early bird! He sometimes will go to bed as early as 6, but he ALWAYS wakes up between 6 and 7, no matter what time he crashes at night!

oddballj oddballj

my son has gone to bed at 9pm since he was 1 1/2 yo. If were out or doing something he may not get to bed til 10@the latest

roach... roachiesmom

What Rana said.  My kids had night owl parents (I still am), and their dad was on a 2nd-3rd shift schedule when my boys were little.  By the time my daughter came along, he was first shift and I started adjusting the kids toward that and a regular school schedule that was inevitable. They did adjust at least moderately.

I cannot adjust to the a daytime schedule.  Never have been able to.  If I have to get up early, I just don't sleep. 

avasm... avasmom1606

I usually put my dd to bed around 9-9:30 cause it won't matter if I let her stay up later, she wakes up at the same time every morning regardless. one time we were at a friends and didn't get home until 2am and she didn't want to sleep there until we left...she woke up @ 8am the next morning...even if I put her to bed @ 9 it's usually 8am she wakes up so, I try to get her down early so hubby and I have our time or I can have "me" time since I'll be up early the following morning.

t3dra... t3dragonflies

My husband used to work swing shift and I stayed home so in order for my little one to see him at all I'd let him stay up until Daddy got home. My husband then stayed up with him while I went to bed, our older kids had to go to bed early for school so I needed to be able to get up with them. The littles and Daddy would snuggle until Daddy put them to bed and then sleep in with him while I got the other kids off to school. It worked for us then but now with work and all but one is school we are on a more traditional schedule.

shiva... shivasgirl


It isn't about a real world schedule for me, it is about work. I have to get to bed at a decent hour and get up to go to work. I suppose if you didn't work and had nothing to do, sure let your kid stay up as late as they want. They are going to have one hell of a time trying to adjust to a schedule when school time comes around.

bugs-momma Mar. 20, 2009 at 3:24 PM

ummmmm.perhaps the reason some of our kids stay up late is because WE WORK LATE!!! I was working from 2:pm to 9:pm since my twins were two months order to see my kids we simply moved our schedule to what worked for US...My kids regularly go to bed between 3-4:AM and get up at about a problem with that??? If they didnt I would never see them...what is the point of having my kids in bed by 7:30pm and up at 7-8:am when I would not be around to see them? By the time I get home, at 9:30pm...and get situated, get dinner on the table at 11:pm, then spend some time with my kids, baths and bedtime comes around  3-4 AM..were doing fine...and I really resent the idea that you think that just because my kids are up late I dont work...even a stay at home mom works, HARD, and thankfully doesnt have to cram her kids into hours that fit someone else's schedule!

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