Keeping Sick Kids Home from School

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My son woke up with a cough last week. So the first thing he declares to me, of course, is: "I have to stay home from school today because I'm sick, Mommy."

Well, no, I explained. Plain old coughs don't qualify for sick days. Not according to the school nurse and not according to my rules. If that were the case, my kids would never go to school and preschool!

It's funny how you lower your standards for how sick your child has to be to stay home the older they get. Nataly Kogan of workitmom.com says when her daughter started pre-school, two years ago, her bar was really high — a runny nose would be reason enough to keep her home. Today it's if she has a fever or is just generally miserable.

Come to think of it, now that my son and toddler is older, that's the criteria in our house, too. I don't expect them to get it now, but someday I hope they'll understand that it's way better to tough it out and let Mommy and Daddy save their time off for a real vacation day, when the entire family can be together and do something fun!

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butte... butterfli4201

I have to say that I try not to send my son if he is sick, but it seems like he ALWAYS has a runny nose or a cough.  Not only that but he is bringing it home to my younger 2 kids.  I don't mind thee colds so much as the stomach bugs.  My little girl is having so many issues with weight gain right now that I have to take her to the hospital to be admitted if she gets a stomach bug so I am super nervous this year about germs.  I just wish that parents thought about the other kids that are getting sick before they take theirs to school.  Fever, green snot, vomiting, runs, keep them home please.

Kaleb... KalebsMommee

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I get soooo pissed when lazy ass parents who cant give up a day of work send their kids to school or daycare.  If my child is couging with runny nose I keep his butt home and so should everyone else. And dont give me the single mom excuse cuz I was one! It agrivates the hell out of me cuz it gets my kids sick and then me. Right now we have all been fighting off a cold for almost 2 weeks cuz parents insist on sending their kid that has been hacking up all over the place to school.  Now  my 8 month old gets really sick b/c her immune still weak, and my son is sick. I kept him home for 3 days because I am not one of those stupid parents that think it ok to infect the entire class!


MAMMA2DYANDTY Feb. 20, 2009 at 5:01 PM"


So I guess you also don't take your kids out in public either?


School isn't the only place kids get sick so you can't just blame "stupid" parents for sending their kid to school with a common cold. If everyone kept their kids home just because of a small ,common cold noone would have a job because their bosses would fire them. Now if a kid is running a high fever, vomitting or has diareah then yes they need to be kept home but for a runny nose and sneezing? Not all the time. besides, when can you be 100% certain whether it is a cold or allergies. Allergies put me down alot quicker than a cold does.

Lori0... Lori05468

every body needs r&r to get better.  sending kids to school with sniffles or  cough is just going to spread the germs and misery. 


 

nonmember avatar Chrissy

My son is rarely sick so the times he is, I keep him home and we read stories in bed and I make him Chicken Noodle Soup and Toast.
He's 6 now and loves reading which is good because in school, they're learning to read. So I bought these series of books by Charlotte Cowan which are good for me too because they help me teach illness especially at this age.
So today he's sick and we read "The Moose with Loose Poops". It was perfect fitting because he had a messy bed this morning and felt horrible for it. I wanted to tell him it was okay it was only an accident :( poor guy... but he kept down his chicken noodle soup so i'm hoping tomorrow he'll be feeling a bit better.

jessi... jessiepink

Please keep your sick children home from school. I'm a teacher, and we dont' want to catch everything that walks in the door because you want to go on vacation.

nonmember avatar seansmom2004

I always leave my son home when he is sick, I will take him to the Dr., get a Dr's note for 3 days, My son would feel better and then on his way to school. But then 3 days later sick again soo since I have medicine at home, this time he misses more school day w/o Dr.'s not and then the school starts bothering me about his absents. So Im stuck eitheir way...



nonmember avatar frenchy20

I just saw this article. I leave my daughter home when she is very sick, but if its not something contagious and everything seems ok, as long as the dr says its ok, she goes. And to the person above me, if your son shares your spelling skills, he better go to school! Its spelled "absences", not absents. Dont even get me started on the grammar.

nonmember avatar Kristen

My older daughter has a way of getting sick really easy. Strep, puking,you name it. I take her to the dr. And get a note every single time for the school, because the school gives me shit constantly about her absences. Even with Dr's notes! I'm sorry, but if my kid is sick I'm keeping her home! I guess they want me to send her to school sick with strep throat. I'm sure if she was to go into the office and sneeze all over them they'd feel differently. Idiots.

blued... bluedolly01

"I get soooo pissed when lazy ass parents who cant give up a day of work send their kids to school or daycare. If my child is couging with runny nose I keep his butt home and so should everyone else. And dont give me the single mom excuse cuz I was one! It agrivates the hell out of me cuz it gets my kids sick and then me."



MAMMA2DYANDTY - I guess you have VERY understanding employers who are fine with you NOT being at work, and that's great for you but unfortunately not everyone is so lucky. That doesn't make me a "lazy ass parent". I am sure that my child would rather go to school with a bit of a sniffle than go to bed hungry at night or not have a roof over his head.



My sons first year in day-care I had to take 22 days off work to care for him and this was with tummy bugs, fevers, ear infection etc. I AM NOT A LAZY ASS PARENT but I couldn't afford to take a day off just for the sniffles.

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