Mom Confessions: I Find Excuses to Send My Kids to Bed Early


mom confessionsIt's time for a Mom Confession -- because, let's face it, we're real mothers and sometimes it doesn't work the way the parenting books say it should.

This Week's Confession:

I once made an excuse why my kids were in trouble so they would have to go to bed early that night and I could get a break! -- anonymous

I've told my toddler it was bedtime when it was really an hour earlier so I could put him to sleep and watch my favorite TV show. -- anonymous



Is it wrong for Mom to make up excuses or fib about bedtime if the truth won't work?

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Do you tell little white lies to your toddler for the sake of getting a much needed break or restoring your sanity? Is fibbing about bedtime really that bad?

We all have secrets and opinions -- so thanks to these brave moms for sharing their honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation non-judgemental!

Past Confessions:

My Kids Go to Sleep After Midnight

I Let My Toddlers Go Naked in Public

I Throw Away My Kid's Artwork

I Paid $22 for My Son's Haircut

My Toddlers Eat Pizza for Breakfast

I'm Dying My Toddler's Hair

I Leave My Toddler Alone in the Bath

Our Children Aren't Invited to Our Wedding

I Scold Other People's Kids

I'm on Vacation, But My Kid Is Still Going to Day Care

I Favor My Older Child

I Let My Toddler Eat Food Before Paying for It



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3gift... 3gifts.from.god

A lie to get them to bed is better than duct taping thier mouths shut. I have SOOO been there!


avasm... avasmom1606

it wouldn't matter if I try to put my dd to bed early she won't go to sleep until she is ready...trying to put her down early will do more harm than good for me. she usually goes to bed at 9-930 but I could never try to put her down at 8 she is too smart and knows it's not time. lol

babyb... babyboomboom

My son is only 9months so he already goes to be fairly early but I have sent my sister and brother to bed early just because I needed to get some stuff done.  But usually I tell them it's quiet time and they need to find a quiet activity to do in their room but it needs to be cleaned up in 1hr because that is bed time.  My sister will usually fall asleep on the floor with her littlest pet shop toys and my brother will read for an hour.  So I don't lie but if I need an hour to do something uninterrupted I will send them to their rooms.

RanaA... RanaAurora

I think it's really screwed up to pretend your children are in TROUBLE to send them to bed early.  If they didn't do anything wrong, it's really wrong of YOU to say they did.

If my son's behavior isn't great, we let him know that we're moving up bedtime tonight because it's obvious he needs a little more sleep.
If his behavior is fine, then he's going to bed at a normal time, no matter how much extra free time I want.  It's not fair to him.

blg119 blg119

Why lie to your kids? We are the parents. If we feel it is time for bed, it's time for bed. You wouldn't want your children lying to you....don't set a bad example.

BDAsmama BDAsmama

Why Lie? Your the parent. We don't have a SET bedtime for our kids (although it is around about the same time every night) There are nights that my kids are exhausted and they go to bed early, there are nights I'm exhauster and we ALL go to bed early. There are nights we have special events that we stay up a little later. (They usually have to be good to get this, this helps with them behaving, using manners, helping etc. so they earn it) But you don't have to lie just say "it's time for bed" and when my son says "why do I have to go to sleep" I explain that his body rests and grows while he's asleep and it's how he is able to get stronger, smarter, stays healthy etc.

momof... momof3jll

Sometimes when my kids seem intent on driving me crazy I'll tell them it's time for bed. Now my oldest can tell time so he'll say "no it's not!" Then I just tell him yes it is go to bed. I don't lie though. I just tell him he's driving me up the wall and we need some time apart! They don't usually go to sleep though, they'll stay awake for awhile but they stay in their room.

nonmember avatar Irene J Harvey

I enjoyed reading the comments about what time is bedtime. I am now a grandma, but the same rules apply to the grandchildren as they did to my own when they were young.
Bedtime for them was when mommy was tired. They learnt that this was better for them as a tired mom was a grumpy mom. I always come up to read a short story to them, and then it was time to sleep - no discussion on the actual time allowed.
May I suggest a good book to read to them, such as my new book, which has ten short stories about a car and his friends and their merry-go-round at the fairground. The kids will look forward to the next episode.
Irene J Harvey
William the Fairground Car

Colts... ColtsFan1912

lol imight do that on Biggest Loser Nights :)

BDAsmama BDAsmama

Thats why I am glad they invinted DVR/Tivo I used to miss my shows, because my kids come first, but this way when they go to bed I get an hour or so to watch my shows then clean and go to bed. Works out Great.

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