Mom Confessions: I'm Dying My Toddler's Hair


mom confessionsIt's time for a Mom Confession -- because, let's face it, we're real mothers and sometimes it doesn't work the way the parenting books say it should.

This Week's Confession:

"My son is still a baby and doesn't have hair yet, but if his hair grows in red, I will be sad. I will seriously dye his hair if it is really red. No offense to anyone or any kid with red hair ... some are really cute .. and girls with red are very pretty. But I just love blond/brown hair." --anonymous


Is it okay to dye or highlight a toddler's hair to change or enhance the natural color?

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Does a mother have a right to dye or enhance their toddler-age child's hair for preference or cosmetic reasons alone? How much control should a mom have over a young child's physical appearance? What message, if any, does this send to your toddler?

We all have secrets and opinions -- so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation non-judgemental!

Past Confessions:

I Leave My Toddler Alone in the Bath

Our Children Aren't Invited to Our Wedding

I Scold Other People's Kids

I'm on Vacation, But My Kid Is Still Going to Day Care

I Favor My Older Child

I Let My Toddler Eat Food Before Paying for It


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Momof... MomofCiaraAaron

ARE YOU SERIOUS!?! Why on earth would any mom want to dye their childs hair?! Thats just not cool. Ya know they tell you as the mom not to dye your hair while your pregnant because the chemicals, you shouldn't be breathin in, so what makes anybody think it would be ok to dye a childs hair! I don't care if my baby was born with purple hair! What God gave my child is good enough for me.

doodl... doodlebopfan

He is not a baby doll to play with, who needs to meet your personal preferences. He is your son and you will certainly be sending him a message that he isn't perfect just the way he is. Is that what you want?

madam... madamekatekate

I truly hope this lady was only being sarcastic. You know "I swear I'll do it! I will! *laughlaughnudgenudgewinkwink*"

If she is serious...I hope she reconsiders. Think about how dye is on an adults hair/scalp! Toddlers are so tender in some ways, it would just be too dangerous to consider. I've had dye and bleach burn my scalp to the point I had blisters...And my scalp isn't typically sensitive!

Aside from the danger, I agree with mostly everyone...It's just ridiculous. Even if you truly hate the color of your childs hair that's no reason to change it. Just like peircings and tattoos, changing the color of ones hair should be a personal choice.

I won't go on much anymore...I'd like to leave my comment as nice as I can.

jspy72 jspy72

This is just like the post I read about the mom that wanted to shave her toddler's head so her hair would grow in faster. Give me a break. Narcissistic much?

srene... srenee1988

That makes me sad. Is she going to put her kids on diet/exersice regimes make sure their body is "right"? I think it's aweful.   Can you imagine... "Mommy loves you, but your hair is ugly...let's dye it. "   WTF!?    Grr... Makes me sad AND angry.

cathy... cathy2708

no this is not ok...are you serious!!!

RanaA... RanaAurora

That mom is just sick.

babyb... babyboomboom

The chemicals in hairs dyes are hard on an adults body... I would think they could be almost toxic levels to a toddler.

My big concern though is that the child will grow up feeling like they are not good enough for Mom. That would be like saying I like blue eyes so my kids all have to wear blue contacts. It is very vain, silly, and DANGEROUS!

PatCarMom Feb. 6, 2009 at 11:52 AM

ITA w/ EVERYTHING this mom said!  Dying your childs hair is vain and selfish.

figgz figgz

jeez give the kid a complex why dont you?

theres plenty of time for his peers or life to do that to him...moms are for nurturing not screwing ur kid up.

Mythi... MythicMMM

that's just as bad as the moms that straighten their toddlers hair IMO.

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