Mom Confessions: I'm Dying My Toddler's Hair


mom confessionsIt's time for a Mom Confession -- because, let's face it, we're real mothers and sometimes it doesn't work the way the parenting books say it should.

This Week's Confession:

"My son is still a baby and doesn't have hair yet, but if his hair grows in red, I will be sad. I will seriously dye his hair if it is really red. No offense to anyone or any kid with red hair ... some are really cute .. and girls with red are very pretty. But I just love blond/brown hair." --anonymous


Is it okay to dye or highlight a toddler's hair to change or enhance the natural color?

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Does a mother have a right to dye or enhance their toddler-age child's hair for preference or cosmetic reasons alone? How much control should a mom have over a young child's physical appearance? What message, if any, does this send to your toddler?

We all have secrets and opinions -- so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation non-judgemental!

Past Confessions:

I Leave My Toddler Alone in the Bath

Our Children Aren't Invited to Our Wedding

I Scold Other People's Kids

I'm on Vacation, But My Kid Is Still Going to Day Care

I Favor My Older Child

I Let My Toddler Eat Food Before Paying for It


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nonmember avatar CareenProkop

I let my two oldest children dye their hair with a very natural very mild temporary color after them begging me to let them and talking to their pediatrician. I would never do it because they didn't have the "right" color. Oh btw my daughter's reason (who was 5 at the time) was she wanted red hair like princess Ariel and her little sister Alyssa, and my son's reason was he wanted to look like daddy Tim (his biological father). That was interesting because my son has blonde hair and Tim has dark brown almost black hair lol. But I would never make them do it, or use a harsh permanent dye, I only used something the Dr recommended after a very long discussion about pros and cons and health risks etc. I just couldn't see saying no when they had very cute reasons (even after I told them how much I loved their hair as it was), and it was something they wanted so much. They even did extra chores to make their allowance bigger so they could "help" buy it (it was really expensive but worth the looks on their faces). And it washed out after a little while and they haven't asked since then and their hair is perfectly healthy and no problems whatsoever

mamav... mamavaness

Ohmygoodness I know this was posted a long time ago but people really do this! My mother in law dyed my husbands hair & his brothers when they were like 2 years old! I love the lady but I have no idea what she was thinking!! Some pictures my husband has jet black hair & others its blonde etc! I think it was stupid of her to be honest but i'd never actually tell her that lol

mamav... mamavaness

oh & I should add that her brother who is a professional hairstylist for a very high end salon would encourage her to do it. He should know better, ahhh, crazy people! But there are way worse things to do to a child, so for the people with the cps comments calm down!

nonmember avatar helen

I will dye my Toddlers hair so he can model/act but I love his red hair and so does everyone else. I have red hair too and my life was ruined by jealous retarded kids that made me hate my hair as a child. Dont dye his hair because you dont like his color. How can you honestly not love everything about your own child..omg

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