Mom Confessions: I'm Dying My Toddler's Hair


mom confessionsIt's time for a Mom Confession -- because, let's face it, we're real mothers and sometimes it doesn't work the way the parenting books say it should.

This Week's Confession:

"My son is still a baby and doesn't have hair yet, but if his hair grows in red, I will be sad. I will seriously dye his hair if it is really red. No offense to anyone or any kid with red hair ... some are really cute .. and girls with red are very pretty. But I just love blond/brown hair." --anonymous


Is it okay to dye or highlight a toddler's hair to change or enhance the natural color?

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Does a mother have a right to dye or enhance their toddler-age child's hair for preference or cosmetic reasons alone? How much control should a mom have over a young child's physical appearance? What message, if any, does this send to your toddler?

We all have secrets and opinions -- so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation non-judgemental!

Past Confessions:

I Leave My Toddler Alone in the Bath

Our Children Aren't Invited to Our Wedding

I Scold Other People's Kids

I'm on Vacation, But My Kid Is Still Going to Day Care

I Favor My Older Child

I Let My Toddler Eat Food Before Paying for It


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Moomie Moomie

This is showing your child they are not good enough, how fantastic of you! (Please note use of sarcasm here!)

jsnzmom jsnzmom

To be honest, I'm having a hard time posting a comment that's NOT judgemental.  I think it's sad that a mother would potentially harm her child in the name of vanity or some weird idea of what is "cute".  There is no good reason to dye a toddler's hair, and it breaks my heart that she would seriously send a messge to her child that they are not absolutely perfect just the way they are.  She's setting that child up for problems that will probably last him a lifetime.  I feel sorry for him.

LexsMami LexsMami

My mom is a hair sylist and she said that it is not really safe to dye a kid's hair that is under 12. A stripe or two of highlights is ok I guess...but not the whole head. What a vain, selfish bitch!

delta... deltacogirl

That's horrible.  While a mother may have the technical right, its terrible parenting.  Way to set up your kid for low self-esteem.  Even my mother didn't love my looks.  Wow.  Not to mention how dangerous it could be.

CA_Mo... CA_Mom_of_2boys

Is this a joke?  Please tell me you are joking.  Seriously.  Totally.  Joking.

baby1... baby1love

My mom wished that my DD had red hair but now she loves the color of my DD's hair.

Momma... MommaTasha1003

A great way to start a life time of not ever feeling attractive or good enough... And to put your child at risk for their HAIR!????

jalex jalex

This really maybe the most stupid cafemom poll ever.  G0*Damn!

CherB... CherBearCM

My DD has this beautiful shade of red hair.  People used to actually ask me if I dyed it that colour when she was 3-4 years old.  I looked at them like they were crazy!  Then the odd person would tell me about someone they knew who dyed their toddler's hair.  I can't imagine dying my child's hair at such a young age.  It's hard on my scalp I can't imagine what it would be like for a child.  Never mind the child feeling like their hair doesn't measure up.

Loa1002 Loa1002

NO. It should be a personal choice. Also, there are chemicals in dyes.

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