Mom Confessions: I Leave My Toddler Alone in the Bath


mom confessionsIt's time for a Mom Confession -- because, let's face it, we're real mothers and sometimes it doesn't work the way the parenting books say it should.

This Week's Confession:

"My son is just about to turn 2 and he has been playing in the bath by himself for about a month now. He likes to take long baths, and it got to the point where I had stuff to do and I got tired of fighting to get him out. So now he takes a bath in the master bathroom while I'm close by in the bedroom folding clothes and picking up his toys. I don't go far, but I don't hover over him, either. --anonymous


Do you leave your toddler alone in a shallow tub of water for a short period of time if you are close-by?

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When is a safe time to begin granting your child more independence at bathtime? Does it depend more on your toddler's age or maturity?

We all have secrets and opinions -- so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation non-judgemental!

Past Confessions:

Our Children Aren't Invited to Our Wedding

I Scold Other People's Kids

I'm on Vacation, But My Kid Is Still Going to Day Care

I Favor My Older Child

I Let My Toddler Eat Food Before Paying for It



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Ooftacat Ooftacat

When your child drowns, they won't be fine.  You can't take that moment back.  It's not worth the risk, sorry. 


Lanoss Lanoss

I have a three year old daughter that I will leave in the tub to run and get a washcloth. But I usually bring the phone and a book in with me so I don't have to leave. I wouldn't want her getting out of the tub by herself. It is too easy to slip getting out. I enjoy watching her play in the tub. Even though I have a book or knitting, I can still watch her. But I only started leaving her in the tub the past 3 or 4 months.

srene... srenee1988

I left my 8 month old alone long enough to run into the other room and grab my camera.The water was shallow enough that he could lay down, and he's not trying to climb out yet, and it was just a second...i won't leave him alone for any lengthy amount of time until...well, IDK...until I feel comfortable.

Laura... Laura4807

yup, she's 21 almost 22 months and she knows that when mommy or daddy isnt in the bathroom she has to sit down and continue splishin and splashin.

mommy... mommy2crums

I leave my 2 yr old alone while I get her clothes and diaper but only with the water emptying from the tub never with it full.

peppe... peppermintmocha

I leave my 2.5 yo  and my 4 yo in the tub together. I am always close by, usually across the hall putting laundry away. If half a second goes by where one isn't talking, I am in there checking on them. The worst thing that ever happened is that they dumped water on the floor. I understand that it can be dangerous, but I have to be able to get stuff done too. Although I am sure taht I will get nasty messages later about this. You have to trust that you kids will be ok at some point other wise you will still be bathing your teenagers. I was taking baths alone by 4 in tubs decently full of water. My oldest almost drown once when I turned around to grab a towel, thankfully I was there and heard her slip, but she was just shy of a year at that point. I think at 4 and almost three, they should be ok for short periods of time.

Mommy... Mommy_to_CTN

I don't start doing this until they're about 3, and even then, I'm close by.  IMO, "almost 2" is way too young.

emslala emslala

If I leave my daughter in the tub and she drowns, all the clean laundry or mopped floors in the world won't bring her back. I will gladly stay up for an extra hour or 2 to get my stuff done if it means ensuring her safety & happiness.

Colts... ColtsFan1912

nope.i know a mom who lost her son to drowning. i wont risk it. not worth it.

Mommy... Mommy2Bears

I have a two and one year old and I let them play alone in the tub every night. I check on them often and I'm normally sitting on the couch watching them. I have to force them out of the tub, they'd stay all night if I let them.

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