Mom Confessions: I Leave My Toddler Alone in the Bath


mom confessionsIt's time for a Mom Confession -- because, let's face it, we're real mothers and sometimes it doesn't work the way the parenting books say it should.

This Week's Confession:

"My son is just about to turn 2 and he has been playing in the bath by himself for about a month now. He likes to take long baths, and it got to the point where I had stuff to do and I got tired of fighting to get him out. So now he takes a bath in the master bathroom while I'm close by in the bedroom folding clothes and picking up his toys. I don't go far, but I don't hover over him, either. --anonymous


Do you leave your toddler alone in a shallow tub of water for a short period of time if you are close-by?

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When is a safe time to begin granting your child more independence at bathtime? Does it depend more on your toddler's age or maturity?

We all have secrets and opinions -- so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation non-judgemental!

Past Confessions:

Our Children Aren't Invited to Our Wedding

I Scold Other People's Kids

I'm on Vacation, But My Kid Is Still Going to Day Care

I Favor My Older Child

I Let My Toddler Eat Food Before Paying for It



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toria... toriandgrace

I'll admit I've left my almost three year old daughter for a few moments while I got a diaper or PJs from her room. Beyond that, I won't leave her. I take a Sudoku book with me, or I clean the bathroom. What I tend to do most is give her baths while I take showers, then I get out and get ready while she plays in the water. I'm in the room, but she gets water time and I got dressed, brush my teeth, dry my hair etc. without worrying what she's getting into.

sfwilson sfwilson

I usually just leave my 15 month old for a few seconds... I run to get a towel or a washcloth or something.  Otherwise, I'm pretty much right there, hovering :)

Jason... JasonsMom2007

No way!  My son loves to take long baths but it just gives me time to clean the bathroom.  I check on him constantly while I'm doing it and he's always talking so I listen closely as well.

MamaC... MamaCatCat

Every now and then, I will make a mad dash to the other bathroom because I forgot her towel or something. That's the only time. And even then I feel like crap because I know it doesn't take long for something horrible to happen. It's not only drowning, which is still something that happens's also hot water. I read an article i Parenting or Parents, about a little girl who DIED because he grandmother left the room for a split second and the little girl reached up and turned on the hot water. She scalded her face and down her throat and it killed her.

amber... amber1216

I am with Lelandsmommy

Melan... MelanieLouise

My son is 21 months old, and the furthest I've gone away from him is the bedroom.... and our house is tiny, so that's like 5 feet (you have to go through the bedroom to get to the bathroom). If I'm in the bedroom, it's because I'm doing laundry, so I'm in and out of the bathroom anyway, since that's where our closets are. Even standing in the bedroom, I can still see him.

JPsMo... JPsMommy605

I've left the bathroom to get something and come right back, but only after I know that my son is calm and will remain sitting.  I will not leave if he's standing or playing very actively.  He understands bathroom safety rules because he has slipped and hit his head on the wet floor, so he follows all safety rules.  I won't go any further than my room next door and for less than a minute, so no trips downstairs even to grab something quickly.

c_boe... c_boerman

No way have I or would I do this for a long time.  My son is 20 months old.  It's not JUST the drowing issue it is also slipping and falling in the tub. 

spira... spiralbelle19

I NEVER EVER leave my son alone in the tub, NEVER!!  My sister when she was little turned the hot water on herself and spend like six months in a wheelchair with burns on her feet.  She hadn't even been in the tub she was playing in her friends room and they decided to go play in the tub.  It was in like 1980 and she still has scars to this day!!  It takes only a second for something to happen and I would never forgive myself if I went to fold laundry or something.  Not judging I am just saying after seeing pictures of my sister in a wheelchair at two was heartbreaking, I would never

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