Mom Confessions: I Leave My Toddler Alone in the Bath


mom confessionsIt's time for a Mom Confession -- because, let's face it, we're real mothers and sometimes it doesn't work the way the parenting books say it should.

This Week's Confession:

"My son is just about to turn 2 and he has been playing in the bath by himself for about a month now. He likes to take long baths, and it got to the point where I had stuff to do and I got tired of fighting to get him out. So now he takes a bath in the master bathroom while I'm close by in the bedroom folding clothes and picking up his toys. I don't go far, but I don't hover over him, either. --anonymous


Do you leave your toddler alone in a shallow tub of water for a short period of time if you are close-by?

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When is a safe time to begin granting your child more independence at bathtime? Does it depend more on your toddler's age or maturity?

We all have secrets and opinions -- so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation non-judgemental!

Past Confessions:

Our Children Aren't Invited to Our Wedding

I Scold Other People's Kids

I'm on Vacation, But My Kid Is Still Going to Day Care

I Favor My Older Child

I Let My Toddler Eat Food Before Paying for It



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twinc... twinclubmom

I've only left the twins in the tub long enough to grab their towels from their room. I'm not comfortable leaving them in the tub for longer than that yet.

delta... deltacogirl

I won't leave my daughter alone in the tub for even a split second.  I make sure I have everything handy before she gets in.  Granted, she's still young, but I would't consider leaving her alone until she's at least able to swim and hold her breath under water.  Even then, I wouldn't go far and it would only be for a second.  I wouldn't be able to forgive myself if something happened, no matter how busy I may be.

RanaA... RanaAurora

I think this really depends on your child and their age.  At 18 months old, I NEVER would have left the room for a second.  At 3, I'd do laundry right down the hall which is about 10 feet away from the open bathroom door.  Both are considered toddlers, but the child is totally different at those ages.

KateK... KateKevinAdopt

No way. My son is 3 and loves the tub, but either I or my husband are in the bathroom with him at all times. It only takes a split second for an accident to occur, that could even mean slipping and hitting their head on the tile or the metal faucets. Maybe when they are old enough to start feeling self-concious about their bodies (maybe 5 or 6?) would I consider letting them alone in the bath for short periods.

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StarM... StarMommy77

If you leave a toddler alone.. you are begging for them to be drowned or burned by hot water.

It isn't abuse, but it is IRRESPONSIBLE. Children can drown in very shallow water.. I wonder what some people are thinking and how they can jusitfy putting their child at risk like that....DUH!

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mlreg... mlregalado

I don't think it's a big deal, if you are within glancing distance it is fine. I was bathing alone when I was 3.

Acid Acid

I don't leave my three year old in the bathtub alone ever.  Its not worth the risk to me.  Kids can drown in a glass of water.  I started leaving my older daughter alone to bath about age 6.

kemis... kemisbabie

i don't let my daughter (how is 20 months)  in the bath for to long. i don't have a master bath so i leave the bathroom door open so if i hear anything i just jump up really fast. my son how is four. when he was a toddler i let him in the bath by him self a lot. he just loves the water.  i think it's ok if you feel comfortable.

LiviG... LiviGracesmom

My dd is only 17 months old, so I don't leave the bathroom while she's in the tub.  She likes a good amount of water though, and I wouldn't feel safe.  I do use the bath to give me time to get ready in the morning, and I'm not always sitting by or standing over the tub.  It gives me time to do my hair and makeup, but that's as far away as I get for now!

Lauri... Lauriemom

 No. I quite frankly find it laziness. My daughter means more to me than convenience does so even when it is not convenient I don't leave her alone.  I really don't understand how someone could take a chance like that, it's just not worth it to me


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