Mom Confessions: I Let My Toddler Eat Food Before Paying For It

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hushIt's time for a Mom Confession -- because, let's face it, we're real mothers and sometimes it doesn't work the way the parenting books say it should.

This Week's Confession:

I let my son eat or drink food from the grocery store before actually buying it. I see nothing wrong with it. It keeps him content and I plan to pay for it, so what's the big deal? I've gotten dirty looks for it several times and can't understand why. --anonymous

I do it all the time! We will even go get our son a new train or something like that, and if he's good, he can even open it and play with it while we shop. I'm going to pay for it anyway, so what difference does it make? --anonymous

 

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What type of message, if any, does this practice send? Should grocery stores be considered restaurants? What does it teach our children about self-control and instant gratification?

We all have secrets -- so thanks to these brave moms for sharing their honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation non-judgemental!

 

Past Confessions:

I Scold Other People's Kids

I'm on Vacation, But My Kid Is Still Going to Day Care

I Favor My Older Child

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three... threeBoysMommy

OK I was OK with this idea but thoughts came running through my mind, what if you get to the check out and didn't have the money to pay for it. What if you left your wallet at home? I have done this many times (leaving wallet home). What if for some reason your account had been frozen? Then you cant pay for the item, and then the kid is screaming more so! I would say... you can hold this until we pay but if you are not good I will put it back. You give the child the item and open it then whats the since of buying it because they were good? Also a child needs to learn they need to behave and NOT always get something for doing so. Children need to learn to be good in stores, out to eat, etc without thinking they will always get something in return. How are you teaching them respect for others then?

TBKSu... TBKSuperMama

I often do this if we go to Kroger or Wal-mart. I f we go to our local store they give out free cookies so I don't open things there. Usually it is something like goldfish crackers or M and M's. Nothing sold by weight. I don't see a problem with that and I almost always have enough change in the bottom of bag to pay for it even if something freak happened like forgetting my wallet ot having a


frozen account. I see no problem with it.

JPsMo... JPsMommy605

I don't allow my son or myself to eat something I'm going to buy for two reasons.  First, there's the chance, however small, that we will need to go home due to his behavior before we finish shopping.  Secondly, and my most important reason, is that I want him to understand that when shopping, we need to BUY it first before we can indulge.  He's learned to be patient and not expect to see something and instanty eat it.  He is allowed to hold it and learn to anticipate the enjoyment of it.  If he's hungry, I bring snacks from home for him to eat while we shop and our store often will hand out free samples of fruit or tortillas. 

xxPau... xxPaulaxx

I've never thought about feeding kids before buying the food, but on multiple occasions I've had to use a kleenex! lol

AllAb... AllAboutKeeley

I was shocked to see this as a "confession" because I do it all the time.  When we walk into Wal-Mart for our weekly grocery shopping trip, I get myself a Diet Pepsi and DD a thing of Goldfish.  We always pay for it at check out.  What's the problem with it?  I've never had anyone looking at me suspiciously or anything (at least not that I now of).

Megan... Megan10385

I think it is totally fine. I have a 2 year old and when you are in a store for while they tend to get restless and hungry so giving them a juice or some chips that you were already going to buy is somthing you have to do to keep a hissy fit from coming on.

mstia mstia

sure why not, esp if it will keep your kid quiet until u are done shopping. but i always let my kid see me give the empty wrappers to the clerk and let him see that i still have to pay for whatever it is he ate

Plus-... Plus-size-mommy

I do it all the time when I take my son out with me but when my husband is with us, he doesn't allow it, he says it's illegal. I say, if it stops my 3 yr old from crying and I have the money to pay for it, I'm gonna do it!

c.bar... c.barbara

HONEY I'VE DONE THAT SINCE MY FIRST CHILD WAS A TODDLER, JUST KEEP THE PACKAGE AND PAY AT THE REGISTER, NOW MY GRANDSON LOVES APPLES SO WHEN I'M SHOPPIN HE GENERALLY GETS HIM AN APPLY AND THEY JUST WEIGHT WHAT'S LEFT AND I PAY FOR IT, I HAVE NO PROBLEM, THIS IS MY TAKE ON THIS: I BELIEVE THE MANAGERS OF THE STORE WOULD LOVE THE CHILDREN TO BE HAPPY THEN SCREAMING GOING AROUND THE STORE, SO SWEETIE LET THEM ENJOY THE GROCERY STORE,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

sarab... sarababy321

i try not to but sometimes i have to grab something and eat it or risk passing out so if that happens i share with the boys and we head directly to the cashier to pay for that item before we continue shopping my store says that its ok but theyve also seen me pass out in thier store before

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