Mom Confessions: I Let My Toddler Eat Food Before Paying For It


hushIt's time for a Mom Confession -- because, let's face it, we're real mothers and sometimes it doesn't work the way the parenting books say it should.

This Week's Confession:

I let my son eat or drink food from the grocery store before actually buying it. I see nothing wrong with it. It keeps him content and I plan to pay for it, so what's the big deal? I've gotten dirty looks for it several times and can't understand why. --anonymous

I do it all the time! We will even go get our son a new train or something like that, and if he's good, he can even open it and play with it while we shop. I'm going to pay for it anyway, so what difference does it make? --anonymous



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What type of message, if any, does this practice send? Should grocery stores be considered restaurants? What does it teach our children about self-control and instant gratification?

We all have secrets -- so thanks to these brave moms for sharing their honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation non-judgemental!


Past Confessions:

I Scold Other People's Kids

I'm on Vacation, But My Kid Is Still Going to Day Care

I Favor My Older Child



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yobab... yobabywazup

Target and trader joes sell the fruit by the piece! Not weight! @ trader joes they have the "green monkey" and when your child finds it they tell the cashier and get a treat from a bin! Stores know that kids get hungry and cranky! That's why they fill the check out with candy, balloons and junk!!!

yobab... yobabywazup

Yea pack ur own food at the store ??? That's ridiculous!!! Do not do this!!! U will be accused of theft!!! Just open some and pay for it! That is not stealing!!!

nonmember avatar cassie

I would have to say I open up a package of crackers or something along those lines 9 out of 10 times I go to the grocery store. I don't know many people who would choose a screaming two year old over opening a package before paying for it. I have never ran into an employee of any store having a problem with it. I sometimes get dirty looks from other people shopping, but I bet the looks from that person would be worse if my girl was screaming cuz she doesn't understand yet why she can't have a snack when we r sourrounded by all her fav foods

Katie Pulley

I hope everyone who eats or given children a weighted item to eat before checking out know that they are contributing to the high costs of fruit. If you pick an apple that is two oz less than the one you ate, it'll only cost a couple cents but it every one of the billion customers around America do it everytime they shop,  it'll cost billions of dollars. There is no way to guarantee that you are paying the right price if you eat unweighted produce. Only paying for the core is stealing! It would be the same thing as only paying for the sleeves of a shirt and keeping the torso for free. Stores use loss prevention to account for the amount that they expect that they will lose through people grazing and that raises the amount of the price of fruit. If everyone stopped grazing, the price of food would be lower. I am really ashamed that all these parents cannot make their children behave without buying treats, toys and whatever they demanded. When I was a child, I behaved because I respected my parents and didn't want to be punished. I got treats sometimes if I behaved especially well but it was a special thing that didn't happen everytime. Children are being ruined by self-gratification because no one at all can wait to get what they want and that's why this generation is having so many problems.

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