Mom Confessions: I Scold Other People's Kids


hushIt's time for a Mom Confession -- because, let's face it, we're real mothers and sometimes it doesn't work the way the parenting books say it should.

This Week's Confession:

If a child comes in my house and starts breaking the rules, I'll scold them if their parents refuse to. I treat all children the same. I demand respect as well as give respect.

Case in point: My sister-in-law's daughter started swinging these heavy glass objects. Her great grandmother and great aunt told her to stop, but she kept doing it, and her mother was in another part of the house. So I sternly told her to put them down and said if you can't listen, you need to stop playing with them.

The girl threw them, screaming, and ran to her mom. Her mom told her, it's okay, you can play with them, and got mad that I scolded her child.


Should moms be allowed to scold another parent's child?

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Do other parents (not a caregiver or babysitter) have the right to discipline your kid when you are not around -- either in someone else's home or a public place, or when the incident involves their own child?

We all have secrets -- so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation non-judgemental!



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Rach0307 Rach0307

If my son is breaking the rules of someone else's house (after being told not to do what he's doing) while we're there and I'm in the other room, I welcome the host giving him a verbal scolding. He usually listens well, though, because he knows that if he comes running to me after disrespecting their rules, he gets a time-out from me (and he's only 2)!

nonmember avatar kld

I usually don't mind when others scold my children. While infrequent, usually they deserve it. Granted its always been by close friends and family. In fact when they do, I support the person so my kids know we're on the same page.

nonmember avatar Maddie

i have zero problem verbally scolding someone elses child if they are in my home (my house, my rules), they are endangering others, they are in my care, or doing something I KNOW FOR A FACT their parents don't let them do (and the parent has their back turned or is out of the room). Even though i believe in spanking FOR MY OWN children i would not do that to another persons child unless they specifically said that was their method, likewise only a select few have permission to spank my child.

nonmember avatar concernedmother

I was shopping for my oldest some toddler food at Walmart he wasn't with me. I was about 5-7 months pregnant though at the time when two kids about 10 & 12 old enough to.know better are wrestling bumping into the shelves that have glass jars of babyfood on them. I yelled be careful there's glass without even thinking. They could have hurt my unborn child or someone else or theirselves. I see them later ramming a grocery cart into the middle frozen section I told security. Their mother was no where to be seen.

nonmember avatar Stacha

Ive recently had a lil weekend at a hotel to take my kids swimming. My dh and I was in the hot tub and had my son in my lap while I was watching my 7 year old on the steps in the pool. There was this lil boy around 5 and he kept jumping in the hot tub. I scanned the room to see if maybe I would spot his mom. I did see who he belonged too. So I kindly told him he may hurt himself or someone else. Next thing I kn he jumped in on my dh head I was frantic because he wouldn't move off of her do I grabed him by his arm and moved him and grabed my dh and sat her on the edge the mother ran over to me and stated her displeasure I simply said if you were watching him then u could of handled your son and me my dh. My husband works a lot so that leaves me with my children on my own and yes sometimes it difficult but I always has my eyes on all three I take note of the colors of their shirt so if there is a situation I go over and handle it. If you watch your children then you don't have to have other people to correct your children. If they are at someone house they abide by their rules or suffer their councequences. And if you don't trust the person to discipline your kids then u shouldn't leave them to watch your child

nonmember avatar CLM

No one should ever yell or touch another child especially if the parent is there. If the parent is not there, than there is an appropriate way to handle the situation by telling them the right way. If a child is playing with glass inappropriately then just say " we are not going to play with that because they are glass and could break and I don't want you to get cut so let's put them away." and if you have issues with people that come to your house and don't follow your rules than don't have them over.

liltx... liltxtornado

It takes a village to raise the young. I would want someone to correct my kiddos if i wasn't watching or to back me up. Sometimes we get distracted and can't see everything so another adult giving loving corrections won't hurt

nonmember avatar Tanya Marie

my family has the rule: "my house, my rules." I do not spank any child that isn't mine unless they have been warned multiple times that what they're doing is wrong. My 8 year old cousin knows that flipping people off is wrong, but flipped me off anyways. Needless to say, she had 2 spankings that day, one from me and another from my uncle. We respect each others rules while at the other's house.

nonmember avatar sam

I only scold other children when we are in public and the parent arent paying attention and the child starts hitting pushing or any aggressive bahavior to other children. Also any child that comes into my house goes by the same rules my kids have to follow and i tell any parent that comes my rules and if they dont inforce them i will which includes spankings

nonmember avatar Joylynn

When children come to my house they know they have to follow the rules or leave. If they don't follow the rules then they are not welcome in my house. For some reason they like coming to my house so they follow my rules. If a parent disrespects me by encouraging their child to act up in my house then I don't invite them to come back. It is my house, after all.

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