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Mom Confessions: I'm on Vacation, But My Kid Is Going to Day Care

by Cynthia Dermody on December 26, 2008 at 7:18 AM

hushIt's time for a Mom Confession -- because, let's face it, we're real mothers and sometimes it doesn't work the way the parenting books say it should.

This Week's Confession:

"My husband and I have a few days off from work, but we still plan on taking our daughter to day care one of the days. We are paying for it and we never get a break. I personally think that any spare moment you can spend with your child is priceless, but sometimes its nice to have a day to yourself. She will play and paint and do crafts, and have a good time, so I figure no harm done." --anonymous

Question: Should working moms put their kids in day care when they have the day off?
  1. Absolutely -- all day, every day, if they want to. 51%
  2. Yes, but only if necessary for an errand or doctor's appointment. 28%
  3. Not under any circumstance -- their kids hardly see them at all, as it is! 20%
Total Votes: 682
Voting on polls is not available on The Stir Mobile.

Are you putting your child into day care over the holiday break? Should working moms do this? Why or why not?

We all have secrets -- so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation non-judgemental!

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  • SexyT...


    December 26, 2008 at 7:44 AM

    Why not? Good idea, especially if the child really enjoys the day care.

  • c_boe...


    December 26, 2008 at 8:31 AM

    I say go for it!  You are paying for her to be there even if she isn't so I would let her go too!  All moms need a "break" sometimes and why not take advantage of the opportunity!  She said her husband is off too so they will be able to spend some much needed time together that they may not get a lot of.  The child will be just fine and will not know any different and she will be playing and socializing.  This mom will be relaxed and hopefully feel rejuvenated which in return makes for a happy family!

  • Senae


    December 26, 2008 at 8:35 AM

    I didn't answer the poll, b/c I don't really agree with any option. I say since you have other days off that you are spending with her, if you need some alone time, go for it. I'm a SAHM, so I don't really know what it's like to be a working mom. I'm sure its really exhausting though. The time to refresh will probably do you good, and you'll be extra excited to see your doll when you go to pick her up.

  • GinaP...


    December 26, 2008 at 9:14 AM

    If they really love the day care they go to, why not?  I might feel a little guilty though if I did that often!

  • mommi...


    December 26, 2008 at 9:31 AM

    hard for me to say because i am a SAHM.

  • AMsMo...


    December 26, 2008 at 9:55 AM

    I'm a working mom and I just recently acquired some vacation time and I want to use some of it to go to out of town (so he would be with me)... but I was considering taking a "me" day as well and putting him in daycare that day. Probably not a full day cause I wouldnt want to get up at 5:45 like I usually do lol but drop him around 9-10 go do my thing and pick him up around 3.. for sure.. no shame in that.. even a SAHM could agree getting a little me time is beneficial!

  • AnyaV


    December 26, 2008 at 10:01 AM

    This is a hard one for me, I'm a SAHM so it really doesn't apply to my situation. Even I need a break sometimes, but I take my daughter to my mom's house and she plays with Nana, and her aunt and uncle who are 13 and 10. I never leave her for more than a few hours at a time every few months but she enjoys the time and I get refreshed. I think circumstances are different for all families, as long as you are respecting your children as people and not overwhelming them with more than they can handle I think it is ok.

  • fairy...


    December 26, 2008 at 10:12 AM

    I worked in a daycare and I know how much some of the kids missed their parents. So I think it is OK sometimes but not often.

  • X-man...


    December 26, 2008 at 10:13 AM

     I say all moms need a day of from being moms to espically with there other half it does wonders for a relationship you know happy relationship =happy parents=happy children.

      My SO sets his own days off so he takes sunday to be with the kids and tuesday to be with me so he splits his time.

  • Lanasmom


    December 26, 2008 at 10:19 AM

    Everyone needs a break--i say if you have a few days off and you want to get something done one of those days or want half a day to yourself, go for it. --Everyone needs a break.

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