It's time for a Mom Confession -- because, let's face it, we're real mothers and sometimes it doesn't work the way the parenting books say it should.
This Week's Confession:
"My husband and I have a few days off from work, but we still plan on taking our daughter to day care one of the days. We are paying for it and we never get a break. I personally think that any spare moment you can spend with your
child is priceless, but sometimes its nice to have a day to yourself. She will play and paint and do crafts, and have a good time, so I figure no harm done." --anonymous
Are you putting your child into day care over the holiday break? Should working moms do this? Why or why not?
We all have secrets -- so thanks to this brave mom for sharing her honest thoughts, and thank you for keeping this conversation non-judgemental!
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I can see doing that maybe one day to get a lil time to yourself, but not everyday of your vacay. I have seen too many mom and dads leave their children at the one I worked at from open to close, everytime they didn't feel like bothering with them. One kid cried all day eery friday cause he knew his mom was at home, but he was with me from 6:30 am to 6:00 pm everytime. she would always tell me just call if you need anything i'll just be home watching tv. that made me mad on his behalf cause he never saw her any other time of the week except at night. SO I'd have to say once in a while but not the whole time, even if you do have to pay whether or not they are there.
I'm a SAHM and recently just started asking other mom's to help me by taking my child for a half day. It has done wonders for my attitude about parenting. Do something for yourself. There really isn't anything like a refreshed mommy with a great attitude to make spending time with your kids more enjoyable. It will also help your child feel stable because she/he will still be in the normal routine.
I didn't see an answer that fit my thoughts. I'm a SAHM so I don't have this option but my sister is a working mom & we are close so I for sure can see your perspective. My thoughts are sure go for it if it's once in a while. I used to work in child care though & I saw many a parent who did this all the time & the poor kids were starved for their parents attention. It was truly sad
That being said, if you are a well rounded parent that takes care of business re: your child on a normal basis then enjoy your day.
There are some days that I have my kids in childcare while I am off. Not all oft them tho'. I did it the other day so I could get stuff done for Christmas. My son was in daycare for the half day (they were closing early) and my daughter was in day camp (which she wanted to go to so she could swim). Today, I kept my son home from daycare and took a vacation day since my daughter was not in school and could not go to daycamp.
My kids are not in daycare ever but my best friends are. If her kids are not there at least 4 out of the 5 days they are scheduled to be there then she is charged anyway so even when she is on a break from college her kids go because she pays for it anyway.
there is nothing wrong with getting a break.
why even have kids? if you want someone else to raise them for you....
I had a friend who had her kid in daycare 50 hours a week, then would go to the gym and drop the kid at the gym's daycare, and then on the weekend she would send the baby over to grandma's house. The baby wasn't even a year old when they took 10 days in Aruba, leaving the baby with grandma.
She kept saying she needed time for herself, time with her DH, etc. Guess she didn't need anytime with the baby. When the child grew older, she bitched about summer vacation and shipped her off to camp. Children are not accessories to discard when you are bored with them.
I had a half day on Fridays at one of my jobs and I used to go and get my daughter but then I thought "Shoot, I'm still paying and I need a nap or I should go and treat myself to a pedicure" so that's what I did. You're still paying for daycare and sometimes you just want to rest without a lil person beating you in the head or riding you like a horse. I say go for it. It's not like you're taking a month off and going somewhere without your child. It's just a day or so.
I'd never done this before, mostly due to guilt, I think. Finally last month I took a day off and spent it with my husband while the kids were at school and pre-school. It was great!!! If your kid loves it, go for it. You need a break, you'll be happier and even more excited to see them afterwards :)