Donut Shop Bans Toddler for His 'Offensive' Question (VIDEO)

doughnuts boxKids will be kids, especially when they're toddlers, and they don't really know any better than to be narcissistic little buggers! That's just who they are at that age! And most of us can accept that ... But apparently, doughnut store owners in Monroe, Connecticut, don't.

The Doughnut Inn is making headlines after a customer named Rebecca Denham says her 4-year-old son, Justin Otero, asked a woman at the shop if she had a baby in her belly. When the woman said, "No," Otero apologized, and Denham said she responded with a mortified, "Oh my goodness, I'm so embarrassed, I'm so sorry!" The woman reportedly shrugged it off, but the managers of the shop didn't take it so lightly. When Denham and her son returned on Tuesday morning, they were asked to leave. Denham says she was told that her son's 'not allowed in here.' The explanation: "He's rude." Yes, the doughnut shop BANNED the little boy.

What ... in ... the world?!

This has to be the silliest turn of events of all time. Okay, maybe not of all time, but wow ... What were these doughnut shop owners thinking? Why shame this mother for something that every parent has to deal with at one time or another?

Like it or not, toddlers can be rude! They're TODDLERS. They don't know any better. Sure, a hundred or so years ago, society used to believe that no matter how old a child was, they were to act dignified, have all of their manners perfectly in tact, and basically be treated like mini-adults. Well, times have changed, and child psychologists have explained that kiddos go through stages of development. Obviously, diplomacy and tact in delicate social situations are not skills we should expect them to have at 4 years old. Oy!

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Nonetheless, most parents do what they can to correct and steer their little ones in the right direction, using various situations -- perhaps like this one -- to teach them right from wrong, rude from polite.

Unfortunately, what happened here to this mom and her son is just so ludicrous, it doesn't even seem to make for a very productive teachable moment. Denham says she's struggling to explain what happened to her son. Maybe it all boils down to this: Toddlers will grow up and learn, but seriously kooky and oversensitive adults are probably a lost cause!

What would you do if you were in this mom's shoes?

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Prett... PrettyWings29

What would I do? Go to Dunkin Donuts instead? 

00NoW... 00NoWay00

I would tell them that I will be happy to take my business elsewhere and suggest that my friends to do the same. So ridiculous!

Mommy... Mommy2Kase

I'm pretty sure a 4 year old is a preschooler, not a toddler.

nonmember avatar Linda

At the beginning of summer me and my 4 yr. Old daughter went to the pool here in our community. There was a lady there who spent a little to much time tanning and as we walked by her my daughter said as loud as she could "mommy why Is she orange". I apologized but I still get dirty looks from the lady when I see her.

craft... crafty_mama85

Toddler or preschooler it was an innocent question for a 4 year old. He didn't know some people are offended by that. My 3 and half year old, since finding out I am pregnant, thinks everyone has a baby in their tummy. Even herself. So it wouldn't surprise me if she were to ask someone. I have had to get onto my son before for commenting on someone's weight and when he learned it was rude and could hurt their feelings he was heart broken and felt horrible for it. I think it's ridiculous for them to refuse to let him come in for that. I would gladly take my business elsewhere.

nonmember avatar mon

If I was the mom I'd quit bitching about it..

As for the owner good for them. They have the right to refuse the service to anyone.

nonmember avatar Kristina Wilson

Preschoolers are ages 3-5 reguardless, its rude of the shop to do that.

nonmember avatar Bettermomthanyo

ThankS for pointing that out mommy2kasey! What if someone actually thought that. Phew you saved the day!!

nonmember avatar Emma

Really.. He got kicked out because he asked the woman if she was preggers some people are so stupid.

Jeana... JeanaJaybird

There is a big difference between a knowledgeable child purposely teasing an overweight woman about looking pregnant and an innocent younger child assuming a belly is big because a baby is in there. I hate to be the one to say it, but preschool-aged children tend to "call it like they see it" .. and I highly doubt at 4 years old this child meant any offense, although in this day and age you can never be surprised to see how some parents allow their children to act. I know I'm only getting one side of the story here, but regardless 4 years old is 4 years old. As in, only been alive and on this planet for 4 years. Give me a break!

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