A mom in South Florida is taking her son's father to court to prevent their 3-year-old son from being circumcised. Heather Hironimus and Dennis Nebus, welcomed their little boy on Halloween 2010, but were never married. In late 2011, Hironimus signed a parenting plan that stated their child would be circumcised, with Nebus responsible for scheduling and paying for the procedure. But now that their son is 3-and-a-half and has yet to be circumcised, Hironimus wants to keep it that way, according to her attorney.
Really, who would blame her? Although a pediatric urologist who testified in court told the judge that the procedure is medically acceptable for boys up to age 10 (after which there's a possibility of torn sutures as boys reach puberty), it is medically unnecessary. Hironimus argued in a hearing last week that she doesn't want her son to "undergo requisite general anesthesia for fear of death."
Ultimately, if Hironimus feels strongly enough to bring it to court, her wishes should be honored. She's even gone so far as to create a GoFundMe page asking people to help financially support her fight to save her son from circumcision.
What this has come to is truly heartbreaking. The decision to alter your child's body for no apparent medical reason is a big, hairy deal that deserves to be treated as such. And something as serious as a circumcision -- especially once a child is aware of it! -- needs to be agreed upon by both parents. It's something they need to both feel comfortable and at peace with.
Since that seems next to impossible in this case, it comes down to doing whatever is best for the child. A simple Ben Franklin list here would make it obvious that to put this little boy through a medically unnecessary procedure done solely to make the father content is just plain wrong.
What do you think the judge should do in this case?
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