Before Alicia Silverstone's new book, The Kind Mama: A Simple Guide to Supercharged Fertility, a Radiant Pregnancy, a Sweeter Birth, and a Healthier, More Beautiful Beginning, even hit shelves, the claws have been out. From Jessica Grose's Slate article, "Celebrity Quack Moms Are a Terrible Influence on Everyday Parents," to other criticisms cropping up over the book's discussion of potty training and conventional medicine, Alicia's the latest target in the "mommy wars." Not that all moms will ever see eye-to-eye on divisive topics like breastfeeding or co-sleeping or crying it out, but it seems many are bonding over skepticism aimed at the actress.
In the eye of the storm, Alicia herself spoke with us about how she feels about the mommy wars and being the focal point of the current battle ...
On why she thinks "mommy wars" persist:
When you're really informed about the choices that you're making, I don't know how you would feel the mama wars. I think it might come from an unsureness. ... Parenting is so deep, and you love your baby, and so you want all babies to be loved the way that you love [yours]. It's coming from a good place, I'd like to think. But I feel like I have friends that make choices that I don't make. ... I still love them for whatever I love them for. But I don't sit around mad at them! I wouldn't go to them for the advice, because that's not how they inspire me. I look up to them for other things.
On how the criticism affects her -- or, more specifically, doesn't:
I actually don't feel any of that [backlash], because I'm so secure in the choices that I make as a mother. I've never been so secure in my life about anything as I am about being a mom. It's so intuitive, and not only is it intuitive, but I'm so informed, because I've done so much research. So the combination has made me into a mama warrior.
On where she finds her own support and guidance:
I turn to my tribe, women who have inspired me in the first place. The moms that I go, 'I loved the way they did that! I want to see what they think about this.' By having people in your life that you really admire in either in the way that they were pregnant or the way they birthed or the way they're parents allows you to have this sort of 'panel' of 'experts' you go to when necessary -- and to ignore everything else.
On what she hopes for moms who might not feel like they have a "tribe":
At the end of the day, if you don't have anybody in your life you're inspired by, that's what I wrote The Kind Mama for. I want to be your tribe. I want to be there for you, so whatever decision you make, as long as you're making an informed decision, then you're a Kind Mama!
What do you think fuels the "mommy wars"?
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