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19 Things Moms Do Every Day That They Really Wish You'd Notice

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Moms, we do so much for our families. Stuff they don't even know about. And when it comes to these umpteen, thankless tasks that reliably fall to us, a lot of the time, no one even notices. If you're a mom, you're nodding your head right now. If you're not, you're probably sitting baffled, thinking, "Like what?!"

I thought I'd ask some follow moms to share some of the ongoing chores they do that often go by completely unappreciated. A major shout-out to moms everywhere, because holy crap, we work our butts off for our families.

Our least favorite jobs that we wish we'd get more recognition for:

Vacuuming up dog hair. No one seems to notice or care when the tumbleweeds suddenly disappear. -- Lauren

Grocery shopping/food prep. No one helps, cares, or appreciates the effort put into it. -- Tonya

... wiping butts for eight years straight! That's nearly 3,000 days x what ... five times a day min? 14,000+! Ahhh motherhood! -- Michelle

The constant mental checklist of noticing things -- prescriptions that need refilling, dentist appointments to make, school book orders. -- Kristen

Clearing out the too small/off season clothing, replacing socks and underwear, clipping fingernails and toenails. -- Marianne

Making appointments for people and animals and registering for EVERYTHING. -- Kelly

Cleaning up the kitchen. I feel like it's what I do all day, every day, and yet it is still a mess. -- PinkHerring

Laundry. No one cares about that until they're out of pants. And my 6-year-old likes multiple daily wardrobe changes, ugh. -- NonSoccerMom

Turning the clothes right side out when folding/putting the laundry away. -- Crazyplaces

Small cleaning. They appreciate big stuff -- dishes, etc. -- but forget if it weren't for me, the house would collapse under piles of clutter. -- Ashley

You mean apart from being here? Just being? Always the backup plan. How about Stocker of Household Goods? TP, shoes, bread, etc. -- Hopejumper

Cooking dinner -- almost every damn night I hear, "How many bites do I HAVE to eat of this?" -- Laura

Knowing where EVERYTHING is and where everything needs to be/go. -- Jessica

Grocery shopping. The food, it just magically appears the fridge in the amounts and kinds we like to eat! -- A'Dell

Being the keeper of the schedule. You know, always knowing who needs what for school, when birthdays are, etc. -- Hillary

Hustling -- always with the hustling of little people through breakfast, to the car, to get dressed, into the bath, to bed, etc. -- Gaby

There is literally zero appreciation for meal planning. Both in the sense that the effort it takes to seek out the recipes & plan & execute the shopping according to the plan and budget isn't appreciated AND in the way that the plan is so casually disregarded according to daily whim of the family (PHILLIP). "What's for dinner?" Meal according to plan. "Oh, I'll just make myself something." Or "Want me to just pick up food instead?" Translation - "Gross, fuck your food." -- TemerityJane

Putting things where they belong. We had a week of backpack hell before my boy decided to hang it on the hook himself when I quit. -- Tammy

Cleaning toilets. Especially with a boy. And a husband, if we're honest. -- Jessica

YESSS TO ALL OF THESE. What would you add to this list?


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balan... balancing-act

I would be nice to not have to work twice as hard the day AFTER Mother's Day to catch up after the day of "celebrating mom". Don't work today mom it's your special day so let the dishes and laundry pile up and just do it tomorrow after your full time job

nonmember avatar needsmorecoffee

making health and beauty products magically appear: razors, shampoo, body wash, toothbrushes, etc. And removing the empty bottles from the bathrooms.

iicar... iicarmerin

Putting kids to bed who don't want to sleep who say, "I'm not tired," even though they clearly are. Every single night.

VACUT... VACUTIE24

BUYING CLOTHES FOR THE KIDS AND STILL WEARING SWEATS FROM WHEN YOU WERE PREGNANT KIDS SEE TO GROW OVERNIGHT.I WANT A GIFT CARD FROM WALMART OR TARGET ANY WHERE I WOULD BE VERY GRATEFUL I NEED SOME CLOTHES. LOL

Maria F Vellojin B

Picking up after everybody and yet is not enough...

johnn... johnny4ever

I detest cleaning the toilet after the men/boys in my home!

arpazia arpazia

Cleaning the bath is AWFUL

elasmimi elasmimi

In my house, picking up garbage. Why does a grown man leave popsickle wrappers on the coffee table?

kellynh kellynh

Ditto!


elasmimi
14 minutes ago
In my house, picking up garbage. Why does a grown man leave popsickle wrappers on the coffee table?

kellynh kellynh

Haha!! I agree!



balancing-act
Friday at 3:58 PM
I would be nice to not have to work twice as hard the day AFTER Mother's Day to catch up after the day of "celebrating mom". Don't work today mom it's your special day so let the dishes and laundry pile up and just do it tomorrow after your full time job

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