Kendra Wilkinson Has Some Choice Words for Dads Who 'Babysit' Their Kids

dads are not babysittingWhat's the difference between a parent and a babysitter? As a former sitter, who spent a large portion of her teenage weekends caring for the neighbors' kids, I can tell you the one clear distinction: you parent your own kids and babysit others.

Yet time and time again, we've seen fathers "babysitting" their children. So let's get one thing straight. Whether you're a mother or a father, you're never "babysitting" your children. You're "parenting."

One of our favorite mommas, Kendra Wilkinson, shared some wise (and slightly naughty!) words on Twitter earlier today:

Amen, girl! And good for Kendra for standing up! Her husband Hank doesn't babysit little Hank, nor will he babysit the one in her tummy. He'll parent them. 

Women who let their husbands get away with saying that they're "babysitting the kids" are doing a disservice to their entire family. Dads are not babysitters.

No matter how you slice it, the statement is demeaning towards both parents. For one, it implies that the fathers graciously allowed the mothers out of the house by taking care of their kids. And secondly, it suggests that fathers are not able to parent their children to the extent that mothers can.

And clearly, neither is true. So ladies, it's alright to take a firm stance on dads "babysitting." Simply, don't let them. After all, you don't leave them a $20 on the table and check their references before you leave them with the kids.

Has your husband ever said he was babysitting? What did you say to him?


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jaxmadre jaxmadre

Agreed! I've been saying this for a long time! You're not baby-sitting when they're your kids.

nonmember avatar Mommadeeder

I sooooo agree! Anytime anyone has referred to my husband as baby sitting our children I have commented "no. He's not babysitting, he's being daddy"

nonmember avatar Melissa

I'm so glad my husband doesn't say he is babysitting. He just says "I'm taking care of the baby"

wyatt... wyattsmom2009

Who cares. Parenting advice from a Playboy Bunny. I think not.

Danielle Cole

Wyattsmom2009, there's more to a person than their past and who they are in the eyes of others. She makes a valid point.

pando... pandorasbox669

Totally agree! I hate that sentence as well

Adrian O'Brien

What if he really IS?  (aka, you come home and find the kids having foraged for crackers (and them all over the floor), a trail of unidentified liquid trailing to the kitchen, and kids with saggy diapers and poo down the legs. So you throw the kids in the shower to be hosed off and find him in the bedroom playing video games)  I get his need for 'me time' but come on...

nonmember avatar zoikes

I really think this is more of a pet peeve thing than a real problem, & it's basically just a spin-off of the stereotype that dad's are fish out of water when taking care of the kids when mom's are not around. Not saying the stereotype is true, but it is a stereotype and I can think of a few men that are more like babysitters than parents when the mom is away.

Kate Zimmermann

Wait, did the Dads jump to the "Babysitting" idea or was it women who were belittling and marginalizing them? I bet it was the latter. See, only Mommy is the *real* parent. Daddy is a barely competent dolt who can only *just* be trusted enough to watch babykins while Mommy is too busy. Mommy will be sure to give explicit directions on what to do and how to do it. Why should a guy even try? [BTW, I am a mom who loves that husband has been free to be the SAH parent to our son who thrives in his Dad's love and care.]

nonmember avatar Sabrina

My baby daddy says this all the time. I tell him it is not baby setting when it is your child.

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