Mariah Carey Feels Threatened By Her Nannies & We Don't Blame Her

mariah careyNo one is going to argue that Mariah Carey seems like an easy person to deal with or work for -- I get the feeling even she would consider herself a diva to the extreme. But lots of moms -- myself included -- unleash our inner diva when it comes to our children and their well-being. What may have seemed acceptable prior to having kids just won't cut it anymore, and we'll happily lay the smack down on anything or anyone who threatens our relationship with our children.

Still, I can't help but have a special place in my heart reserved just for Mariah's nannies. By the sound of it, she has employed and let go of many a nanny in her quest to find proper Mariah-approved care for her 3-year-old twins Monroe and Moroccan. The singer recently revealed on a radio show that she fires nannies "like this" (as she snapped her fingers) if they "try to make themselves more important in the baby's mind" than she is.

According to Mariah, she is a very hands-on mom and doesn't want to enlist the help of nannies, but really, what choice does she have? Between recording music and traveling and promoting herself, I can't imagine it would be possible to take care of two small children without help. And, of course, she's incredibly fortunate to be able to hire the best of the best when it comes to nannies, considering her wealth.

So it's interesting that even she can't find one nanny who meets her requirements. I have to wonder if she isn't confusing the nanny's desire and right to be "important" with their desire to be "more important" than Mariah?

Working moms can certainly identify with Mariah's dilemma. No mom wants to work an eight-hour day and come home to hear her baby call the nanny "mom" or tell her she loves her more than mom. That's simply heartbreaking, even though I'm sure what it actually means is that our children are capable of caring for and forming attachments with other people, as well, which we all know deep down is a good thing.

But we have to remember: a nanny isn't just a worker. She has been entrusted to feed, bathe, teach, entertain, and (to a certain degree) discipline our children. In many cases, nannies spend more time with our children than they do with their own family members. It's only natural they'll want to feel important in the lives of the children they care about.

It's certainly possible Mariah has had bad experiences with her nannies. But it's also totally reasonable to think she's experiencing the same envy that many working moms feel when we have to rely on the help of others to raise our children.

Have you ever felt threatened by your child's nanny?

 

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nonmember avatar Emmie

I've never had a nanny, but a home daycare provider. Both of my kids that attended her daycare had phases (usually around 3-ish) where I couldn't get them out of there without a fuss or they would go to her for comfort while I was standing right next to them. And you know?? I was HAPPY!! That means they loved it there and felt secure, happy, and cared for. Clearly, they will bond with someone that is caring for them most of their waking hours. My entire hope was that since they couldn't be home with me, they would have a home away from home. In my opinion, children can't be loved too much. So they had parents, care providers, aunts, uncles, grandparents, our friends, etc. all that love them to pieces and they loved back!

Jozemom Jozemom

I was a nanny for years, and from what I've seen of Mariah Carry, even if she begged on bender knees with fists full of money I would never work for her. She is so full of herself and I don't think there'd be room in her house for me and her big head.



She seems proud of how quickly she can fire a nanny, not taking into consideration st all how traumatic that is to a young child. I've never had nannies, but I have used babysitters that my children have formed deep attachments to. Everything I pick my son up he cries and says he wants to live with "auntie". I dint take it to heart at all because auntie lets him ha've candy and Kool-aid, so of course he wants to live there! But it makes me happy to know he loves her.



If Mariah is so concerned why doesn't she just take some time off from herself and be a mother to her kids?

Kate Cooley

Since she has an obscene amount of money, she really could take the time off and be with her kids. She just likes having power over people.

TheSi... TheSilence

As a former nanny I would NEVER work for her. Someone who works with young child should form a bond with them, if you don't then that child will never truly feel safe and comfortable with you.

Mariah sounds insanely jealous and incapable of understanding that a bond with a nanny doesn't decrease the bond a child has with his parents. It simply means that the child has more people in his life to care for and help him.

I've never known a child who had parents who actually wanted to spend time with them that didn't know exactly who his mom and dad where. Even children cared for from infancy know the deference between nanny who loves and cares for them and mommy who is their only mommy.

Mariah also doesn't seem to care about the effect the constant firing of her nannies will have on her children. It won't take long for them to stop connecting with other people because they figure they won't be there for long.

seans... seansmom11

I don't even have my child in daycare.. but I'm that psycho mom who doesn't trust anybody with her kid.. nobody can take care of him like I can! Hoping I get over that, soon... he's already 3!

Anyway, Mariah needs to put her children's needs before her own insecurities. Props for being as hands-on as she can.. but she needs to realize children have big hearts, and there's plenty of room in there for them to love a nanny. She'll always be "mommy" and they won't love anyone else the same way they love her. Kind of like with step families. My step daughter and I have a fabulous relationship, but there's a special place in her heart for just her mom. 

mompam mompam

My kids were at an amazing home daycare. They still love her with all their hearts. There were times that nothing I could do could compare to her. I was so happy about this . I wanted them to be loved. It made going to work so much easier. She is a fool.

lthom... lthomas06586

As a daycare provider who has spent hours sometimes all day. its impossible to not feel some attachment to the children that you care fo.r if your child develps a positive attachment for the person you trust to care for them they are doing their job. Ive had plenty of my daycare kids call me mom and ive had to repeatly corrrect and say no mrs. *** thats just part of them growing and learning.

nonmember avatar Lisa

Eh, maybe she goes through them so fast so the kids can't form an emotional attachment to any of them. Mariah must be very insecure to think her kids (they look sold enough to be able to obviously differentiate between mom and nanny and speak up in case the nanny does try to pull the mommy crap) would call a nanny anything other than a suffix and last name or miss, mrs, etc etc.

nonmember avatar me

Shes such a bleep. I seriously doubt theres a string of nannies all trying to put her down as a parent and making themselves more important in the kids lives.. really.. Its normal, and desirable, to a child to bond with their caregiver. So she wants perfect coldcstrangers looking after her kids who the kids dont like and who shows no affection to them? A child beeds stability, and when the parent cant be there, isnt a loving nanny the second best option? A one who loves your kids and your kids love back? But no, miss diva cant have that can she, apparently its better for her kids to have a string of strangers in and out of their lives.

It can be hard for a parent to have their child fall in love with their caregiver, ive seen it many times, but only very insecure person would put their own jealousy above their childs well being. Oh wait..its mariah carey... it does make sense

Saharra Saharra

Never been able to afford a nanny, so I've never had to worry about this.

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