6 Parenting Trends We Hope Disappear in 2014

LOL 121

mom and crying child

I don't know what exactly it is about a new year that makes us suddenly want to revamp our entire lifestyles, but this is definitely the best time to make a few changes ... hopefully for the better.

And while most New Year's resolutions are focused on things like eating healthy and getting in shape -- there are definitely other areas where most of us can stand to improve a little.

Like with parenting, for instance. OMG. Who else thinks it's about high time moms and dads get their butts in gear and go old school when it comes to raising our kiddos?

You know what I mean. Like giving up all these trendy, fluffy, shiny new parenting techniques in favor of regular old ... well, parenting.

Here are six methods of raising kids we've hopefully seen the last of now that 2014 has arrived.

  1. Taking them EVERYWHERE -- OMG. Enough with dragging toddlers to high end restaurants and concerts, already. They'll be perfectly fine without you -- and will be much happier playing at home with the babysitter. You know ... the babysitter. The high school girl who lives down the street and is dying to make a few extra bucks. Try her on for size sometime. You won't regret it.
  2. Nothing but positivity -- Yeah, yeah, that positive reinforcement stuff is all the rage and generally works well when it comes to discipline. But telling your kid "no" from time to time and putting him in time out isn't going to hurt him. Saying "don't do that sweetheart!" in a singy-songy voice only makes him think you're a bigger sucker.
  3. Treating them like an accessory -- Ok, so this is more of a celeb thing -- but your toddler is not a purse. Or a backpack. Give your arms a rest and put him in a stroller, for crying out loud. Or try letting him walk once a while. (What a concept!)
  4. Forcing them to train -- Yes, we want our children to get enough exercise and be active. But toddlers don't need CrossFit. They just don't. Wouldn't it be nice if more parents ran around with them at the park versus enrolling them in fitness classes?
  5. Scheduling routine "playdates" -- Ok, so we definitely shouldn't stop our kids from socializing altogether. But can we please call playing with other kids something other than a "date"? Like ... "playing with other kids." And can't the encounters be more spontaneous instead of being penciled in a month ahead of time? That sure would be nice ...
  6. Letting them lead -- I know there's that whole study about how a toddler should set his own bedtime so his sleep patterns aren't screwed up later -- but we're really setting ourselves up for disaster by letting our children call all the shots. They need rules, limits, and guidance. Period. (Don't let them try and control you. They're WAY too good at it.)

What parenting "trends" would you like to see go away forever?

 

Image via Jim Forrest/Corbis

discipline, learning

121 Comments

To add a comment, please log in with

Use Your CafeMom Profile

Join CafeMom or Log in to your CafeMom account. CafeMom members can keep track of their comments.

Join CafeMom or Log in to your CafeMom account. CafeMom members can keep track of their comments.

Comment As a Guest

Guest comments are moderated and will not appear immediately.

MomoL... MomoLopez

I don't agree. Mostly with the first one. Life is way to short to have to wait around for my kids to be adults to experiance things. 

sassy... sassykat122

MOMOLOPEZ... If you take your children to a place that isn't kid friendly like a high end restaurant or concert then expect them to behave otherwise it is inconsiderate of others. I tend to agree with most of this. Parents can parent how they want but i tend towards old school.

nonmember avatar FarmersWife

Momolopez- I'm with you. Unless it's specifically a "no kids allowed" restaurant/concert/place, kids are absolutely going. And you can expect them to behave like children. They are human beings that deserve the right to be cared for exclusively by the parents, if the parents so choose. Likewise, the parents do NOT have to be shut in or miss out on life because they choose to be their child's only caretaker. My child will be attending our valentines dinner as we do NOT use sitters, ever, period. That is just us. I'm sure I'll get enough nasty looks from the lovely individuals that think they're somehow better than a parent that doesn't use a sitter. Fact is, we're all just parents doing the best we possibly can.

SNAPA SNAPA

I am firmly believe that there are SOME things that should be off limits to children.  When I am at a catered-for-children place, I have no problems with the loud noises, the running around, and what not.  However, when I specifically choose a place that is geared for adults only, I don't expect to tolerate your child.

sassy... sassykat122

Farmeswife... If your valentines dinner involves going to applebees or olive garden then yes by all means. If it doesnt have a kids menu then the place is not catering to the kids and as such the children who do go should be expected to keep noise levels low.

nonmember avatar Desiree

If you bring your kids to an upscale restaurant that obviously caters to adults and does not have a kids menu or booster seats or high chairs, the parents there who have gotten sitters have done so not because they think they are better parents, but because they'd like to have and enjoy an evening without kids. Thinking that you can just bring your kids anywhere you please is disrespecting their right to have a child free night. By all means, go to Applebee's or Denny's or Pizza Hut and have your family dinner. Of course, your children should also have been taught to behave themselves accordingly in public places. Children shouldn't be running around like wild animals whether they are in Applebee's or a high end restaurant.

Krystian Kaufold

I agree with some of these. 


The first one, I can't agree with. 


As I dont' drive, so if I need to go ANYWHERE, then my twins need to come with me, same with my five year old. 


And even if I did drive, I'm a sahm, and can't afford a sitter unless it's their grandparents, and no one wants to take care of three children. Especially children who are still in diapers, and have to have everythign done for them. 

lalab... lalaboosh

If there are high chairs, kids are welcomed by management. Once the child outgrows the high chair they should be able to handle themselves in a nice restaurant unless they have special needs. So yeah, my kids will go where I go if I want to do it that way.



I don't think you understand how people use positive reinforcement, because I have not met parents who don't say no even if they are into positive reinforcement.



Playdate is just a convenient phrase.



Toddlers are easier to parent when they aren't in a constant power struggle. I can see the benefits of letting them lead in some situations.





I'd like to see the trend of making lists criticizing parenting choices when the author doesn't understand them at all go away.

nonmember avatar NoWay

I love how the people who never use sitters EVER have this aura about them that they are better than people who do. It must be nice to not have to work EVER!

nonmember avatar FarmersWife

I do not think I am any better for not using sitters. As my screen name states- we are farmers. I work my a$$ off with my child at my side. That is our lifestyle. With absolutely no need for sitters, a sitter a few times a year would be extremely traumatic to my toddler and selfish of myself. I never said I had anything against sitters, they are just not for us and our lifestyle. Plain and simple. And yes my child can behave just fine. But a squeal, way too loud laugh, or other surprise loudness will probably happen over the course of dinner. Doesn't mean kids are running around unattended or misbehaving. They are simply still learning. Too bad people aren't more forgiving. I don't understand why people think they are a better or worse parent because of their lifestyle choice? *shrugs* time for me to go "not work EVER" while I go feed, bed and milk in order to make money.

1-10 of 121 comments 12345 Last