Jenelle Evans Should Be a Good Mom NOW -- Not Just Later

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jenelle and jaceWe all had to scratch our heads a bit when we learned Teen Mom 2's Jenelle Evans isn't paying child support. I guess as long as her son, Jace, is provided for by somebody, that's what's most important. And it appears that she and her mom, who has custody and financial responsibility for Jace, are in agreement over their arrangement. But what exactly is Jenelle responsible for, then? Is anything Jenelle earned from Teen Mom going to her son? Apparently it is. When asked via Twitter if her son would see any of that MTV money, Jenelle said she's feeding Jace's trust fund.

Predictably Jenelle got high-fives from her fans and boos from the haters. Some people think Jenelle's earnings should go to Jace now while he's still growing. And I think they have a good point. But really, this isn't even about the money. This is about how involved Jenelle is in her son's life. As usual, Jenelle is just an apprentice parent. She's more of an aunt to Jace than a mother.

It should be the grandmother who sets up a trust fund for a child, and the parent who pays the day-to-day expenses. When my son was born, my grandmother sent us a check to open up a college savings account for him. (An aside -- I think a college fund would be better than a trust Jace can't access until he's 21, but maybe Jenelle doesn't think he'll make it to college ...) This was very much appreciated. But my son's day-to-day expenses are on me and his father.

Covering the expenses of your child is one of the ways you parent in the PRESENT. It's not just the diaper changing -- it's paying for those diapers, day after day. Money isn't the most important way you express your parenting, of course. And spending more definitely doesn't make you a better mom. But the way you take that responsibility says a lot about you as a parent.

As long as Jenelle acts like a favorite aunt, contributing in these small, indirect ways, she'll never be a real parent. And maybe that's fine with her and her mother. But I think it's just plain sad. Jace will no doubt appreciate his trust fund when he's an adult. But who will he remember as his primary parent?

Do you think Jenelle should keep funding Jace's trust fund, or should that money go to her son now?

 

Image via Jenelle Evans/Twitter

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nonmember avatar kate

And rumor has it she is pregnant again. a lot of evidence that its true too...

nonmember avatar Armesia

I think hey at least she's trying it's better than her saying no we didn't put any of the MTV money aside. She obviously wasent ready to be a parent so she made the right choice in giving her mom custody the MATURE choice which it seemed to be a very hard choice but she obviously made the correct choice so her son can have the best future I don't look down on her for that...

nonmember avatar that's just me.

It's a shame that the MTV money can't go to whoever has custody & is taking financial responsibility for these kids. It seems wrong for Jenelle & her boyfriend to be living off that money while her mom works full time & pays for Jade's daycare plus all of his other living expenses. JE doesn't even pay child support. Her & her man don't work, they spend their days laying around & playing video games. One thing I don't understand... why on earth doesn't JE have custody? She always SAYS she wants custody. The MTV money she makes obviously is enough for her to live on her own, so shouldn't be able to support Jace as well? Here's an idea....why doesn't Jenelle get a job? That plus her MTV check should be enough to support her kid for sure. So what's the hold up? Can anyone explain that to me?

candy... candyw210

I'm sure Baaa-brah is getting some money from MTV since she is a regular. Maybe not as much but I am sure she is getting something in her pocket. Just like Tyler's mom she went from driving a piece of crap car to driving a BMW. So I am sure the "regular parents" get something. And i think if she is pregnant again as the first commenter " Kate" states there are rumors about; then who cares. She is an adult now! Maybe now if she is pregnant ( as rumors apparently state) then she will raise this one. Remember folks she can't unfortunately just go to Baaa-brah and take Jace and say I want to parent him now. She signed over her rights when she was a teen, and honestly that was probably the best thing for him. As for the trust fund issue; I think it's great she is doing it this way. Baaa-brah makes enough money to take care of him and she is the one who pushed her daughter to sign over parental rights to her so why should she be forced to pay child support when this is what her mother wanted?

TristaAj Major

janelle is an idiot... enough said!

nonmember avatar nat

janelle is no longer a teen and as her mother forced her to make the right decision by signing over her parents rights to her. Her mother should get some money and im sure mtv would not leave jace and his gma hanging im sure they are given some money from mtv. Janelle needs to grow up and quit acting like she is still a teen , if she is prego i feel sorry for her mom who has to have the thought i hope i dont have to raise this one too, could you imagine jace's feelings janelle cant take care of me but can another baby. Jace's best bet would just to get the trust fund from her and her stay away from him. Jace is an awesome kid . To bad for janelle she is missing out on the greatest love in her life,,,

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