Pre-K Teacher Doesn't Want Parents Sending Their Stinky Kids to School

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letter to pre-k parentsToday in awkward letters sent home from school, a pre-k teacher openly admitted to parents that she doesn't like touching their kids. But she's not a kid hater, ya'll. The educator at the BUILD Academy in Buffalo, New York is just sick and tired of smelly kids being sent to school.

You know what? I can't say that I blame her. Kids should be clean when they go to school. Period.

The note to parents comes with a warning to "Please Read" in giant letters at the top, and a section at the bottom for parents to sign, acknowledging they've received it. The letter reads:

Several children in pre-K ages 3-4 are coming to school (sometimes daily) with soiled, stained, or dirty clothes. Some give off unpleasant smells and some appear unclean and unkept [sic].

Parents please take care of this matter. It is a health and safety concern. It also makes it difficult for me to be close to them or even want to touch them.

Enough said.

OK, it's a wee bit harsh. When I think "pre-k teacher," I think warm and fuzzy woman in sweaters with appliqued snowmen on them whose Facebook bio reads "loves kittens and hugs from little kids." A warning that she doesn't want to "touch" kids doesn't exactly jive with that image.

But sometimes the truth hurts.

We've all been there, haven't we? You're standing in the grocery store, and you can't tell if you're crying because of that awful smell assaulting your senses or because you feel so darn bad for that little one whose parents let them go out like that?

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This is where it extends from the obvious health issue to a mental and emotional one too. If a teacher, someone who got into the job because she loves kids, can't stand to be near them, what about the other kids? I'm willing to be they smell it too, and they're probably turning away from those kids and picking other playmates.

Think back to your childhood; didn't you? It wasn't to be cruel, it was a matter of self-preservation. There is only so long you can spend in the presence of something that turns your stomach.

Unfortunately, that's something that can follow a kid far beyond pre-school. Once the "smelly kid," always the "smelly kid." And that isn't on the children. We aren't talking about teenagers here who are going through one of those "I don't want to shower or wear deodorant" phases. We're talking about 3- and 4-year-olds, kids who don't know better and really couldn't do anything about their situation if they could. 

The health issues and the emotional issues that stem from this are completely on the parents, and I commend the teacher for taking a stand on behalf of the children.

It's not like she's asking parents to send the children to school in Gucci and Armani. Hand-me-downs from Wal-Mart are fine ... just so long as they're CLEAN.

There is no excuse for sending kids to school in dirty clothes or without a bath.


What would you do if your kids' school sent home a letter like this?

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Kattey Kattey

I can't blame her. What kind of parent can't even be bothered to bathe their child and dress them in clean clothes. My daughter is a very messy child, and wears her food well, but she's clean when we leave the house.

Brain... BrainyMommy

I would think this teacher is an idiot. If a child is this dirty, it's bordering on neglect and the teacher should be speaking to the parents privately and if that doesn't immediately correct the situation the teacher should be contacting child protective services. Posting this note is absurd.

nonmember avatar april

I don't blame her, but she worded the note REALLY poorly. It should have been more professional and less personal.

Jennifer Kinghorn

I agree, be a fucking parent and wash your smelly assed kids! Lazy slobs do not care for their children, its neglect. I wouldnt touch their smelly litte asses either. 

Debby Couture

And if the child is homeless? What answers do all of you have for that?

bride... brideofchucky

Im glad the teacher took the stand on behalf of those small kids...Hope the letter sent home works so she does not have to turn the parents in....Maybe this is her way of warning the parents that if they dont do anything then the next step would be to turn them in.....My son is a messy child but when we leave the house he is in clean clothes and face and hands are washed....


mande... manderspanders

@BrainyMommy, perhaps the note is necessary because it is more than one or two children who have the issue.

coolm... coolmom0102

Parents who send their kids to school dirty and stinky don't care about the kid much less the poor techer who has to teach them. Those parents aren't worth the powder and lead it would take to blow their brains out. The only reason they keep the child is for the public assistance they receive on them Take away the food stamps for a kid being sent to school in this deplorable conditions and things might change. Then again there's people that would rather give their children away than get off their fat lazy asses and do anything to give the child a better life!

Tatjana Hoffnagle

I completely agree with this 100%, however not all Pre-K or kindergarten teachers are warm and fussy some are down right nasty. This particular teacher and what she said was correct but mark my words there is going to be a parent from her class that's going to sue her for what she did It may have been better for her to take the issue up with the school board first before she sent out a hand written note like that. I'm commending her for her action and at the same time hope she keeps her job.

SDarvasi SDarvasi

Izla....whoa there. The teacher might be right in her opinions, but the way she expressed them and HOW she wrote the note is very unprofessional. You're callinf Brainymommy a shitty parent because of a comment that is not similar to yours? I'm pretty sure if she was on the same level as the parents who choose not to properly take care of their kids, she wouldn't be so upset over the thought of CPS not being called and parents being spoken to in private. Seriously...take a deep breath. Count to 5.

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