White Toddler Calls Herself a 'Strong Black Woman' (VIDEO)

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i'm a strong black womanEveryone is squeeing over this Vine video and it's pretty darn cute. But I don't know ... I just feel a certain way about it. It's a video of a white toddler calling herself a "strong black woman." What's my problem? I love the way she gets up in the camera, her little finger waving. I love how she already has attitude. She's going to need it in this world! So why am I also kind of shaking my head?

Because -- she's fly, but strong black women do not exist solely for our amusement. (Please Google "minstrelsy.") That 'tude, that sass? It comes from years of dealing with unbelievable amounts of racist bullshit, overt and subtle, and learning to hold your head high in spite of it all. Spend an evening over drinks with some of my friends and you'll get it. The road to "strong black woman" is hard and painful. Also, no self-respecting strong black woman that I know would actually say that un-ironically.

Oh but hey, I have a sense of humor.

It's not like I don't appreciate this cute girl's act, which she apparently picked up from whatever it is her parents are watching. (Real Housewives of Atlanta, I'm guessing.) I do! I just hope she actually knows some strong black women, in real life. I hope the black people she sees on Mommy and Daddy's tee vee aren't the only people of color she ever sees. I hope she gets the chance to meet people of all different colors and backgrounds. 

I hope she listens to their stories and shares some of her own. And I hope she comes to understand her place in the world. She has a little privilege as a white person. She faces some challenges as a female. And right now, while she's a fresh human being, her parents have the opportunity to make their daughter a true citizen of the world.

Oh look at me. I'm getting all serious about a Vine video that lasts just a few seconds. It's such a little thing. But the way people respond to it sure says a lot about how we raise our kids.

Do your kids ever imitate what they see on TV?


Image via Madds/Vine

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I really want to laugh...can I laugh?  As a "strong black woman" myself, I don't think I'm supposed to laugh---but, it was sooooooo funny!!!  sidesplittinglaughter


***I will get serious and insulted at another time :)****

nonmember avatar WPWW

What a load of shit...being an overbearing bitch is the privilege of a black woman I guess. 'Tude? Try entitled. What a shame that those parents couldn't put strong white women before her to emulate. In the name of pc they had to indoctrinate her w other 'cultures' instead of being proud of her own.

nonmember avatar brewstersmama

I don't understand why people get so worked over something like that. It was hilarious!! And she's a toddler she doesn't even understand what she said. It made me smile. If it would have been a little girl of Hispanic or Indian descent, it probably wouldn't be perceived as racist. It only is if you choose to see it that way. Everybody lighten up!!!!!

Elaine Cox

ya thats it..you only get to be a strong black woman by dealing with racism...not what your own race does to you...play that race card,boo

nonmember avatar Jodiel

Please, let's just think about this for a minute. This child is 5 YEARS OLD! And adorable, but that's besides the point. I have a hard time believing this video was made as a platform for Political Correctness, lessons in "indoctrinating" children, or any other type of negative "racial" point of view many are having towards this video. This is a precious toddler doing what children are so very good at, repeating what they hear. Can we not just take it for what it is and just laugh?! The hatred toward a child is insanity. Let's just be real, people. Life is too short.

nonmember avatar Gretta

What assumptions you make of this child and her life..... all based on her race.

I thought that kind of thing was frowned upon.

Heath... HeatherMazzone

Wow. This article is beyond ridiculous. Chill.

numba... numba_1_stunna

This author seriously needs to SHUT. THE. HELL. UP.

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Shandi80 Shandi80

Is it just me or did anyone think this child could be speaking of a past life, in which, perhaps she was a 'strong black woman'? Because that's the first thing I thought of. Also, it's cute and not offensive.

Aseye Keziah

It's funny, but I do feel weird about it, because at such a young impressionable age she is already picking up female black stereotypes which is dangerous

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