Bethenny Frankel Has to Take It Easy on Jason Hoppy in Front of the Kid

Bethenny FrankelBethenny Frankel and Jason Hoppy haven't had the most amicable of divorces. Rumors have included everything from Jason refusing to move out of their home to the two of them not speaking to each other while at their daughter Bryn's birthday party. But now here comes the worst rumor of them all. RadarOnline is reporting that Bethenny and Jason had an "epic argument" after a court hearing and then Bethenny called Jason "trash" and "lazy" and "stupid." All in front of Bryn. D'oh! Bethenny, that is soooo not cool.

Who knows if this really happened, but here's what the source had to say:

The argument took place in their swanky Tribeca apartment. She also said Jason was lazy and stupid, because Jason doesn’t have a regular full-time job.

Hmmm ... does anyone really use the term "swanky"? But more importantly, did Bethenny really call her soon-to-be-ex "trash" and "lazy" and "stupid" within earshot of her 3-year-old?!

I'm not sure I'm buying that the talk show host and former Real Housewives star would go that far. No doubt she's fed up with Jason, who is fighting for sole custody of Bryn. But whether or not she did this, it invites a discussion of how to behave during a bitter divorce.

Calling your soon-to-be-ex or ex insulting names should NEVER BE DONE in front of your children. Period. I don't care if he robbed you blind. I don't care if he cheated. Children do NOT need to hear their parents' dirty laundry, at least in my opinion. You can tell them about it when they're adults -- and even then it's questionable whether that is necessary.

You can be frank with your kids. You can say, "We don't love each other like husband and wife anymore." You can say, "We're not happy together but are much happier apart." Children DO want you to be happy.

But children don't hear "Daddy is lazy" or "Daddy needs to get a job." Kids hear: "Don't love Daddy. Daddy is bad. Loving Daddy is wrong."

That's all they hear. And then they feel horribly conflicted about loving their own parent. Kids should never have to feel guilty about loving a parent -- even if that parent makes a shit spouse.

If a parent is a bad parent, the kid will figure that out on their own and make their own decisions about what kind of relationship they want. That doesn't mean you need to defend your spouse. You don't need to say, "Your father is a wonderful person" if your husband is acting like a douche. But you can say, "Your father has issues. I hope he is able to overcome them one day."

And you definitely don't need to lie for your spouse. If he's off having an affair, you can say, "Your father has found someone else he wants to be with." Do not lie or ignore it, because that teaches the child not to trust his or her own observations and feelings. But you can add, "Although you must feel really awful about that, know that marriages sometimes don't work out but we still love you. We will always love you."

So let's hope Bethenny didn't really call Jason "trash."

What have you said to your kids about divorce?


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Sandi Reichert

She is such a stupid woman!!! Leave your nasty comments about Jason in court not in front of a little child!

Bibi Soto

JASON WAS ALWAYS TOO GOOD FOR BETHANNY TO BEGIN WITH. SHE KNEW IT ,THAT'S WHY SHE HAD TO GET OUT OF THE MARRIAGE AT ALL COSTS. S HE ISN'T A FAMILY WOMAN. NEVER FELT LOVED  BY ANYONE ,THEREFORE SHE DOESN'T LOVE HERSELF .SHE CAN'T LOVE. SHE F**** OVER jILL AS MEDLING AS SHE MAY BE ,AND ANYONE WHO GETS TOO CLOSE TO HER WILL PAY HER WRATH. BETHANNY YOU ARE ANY EMPTY " SKINNY GIRL" PUT YOUR CORK BACK IN !


 

Judith Grant Lombardo

She really has issues,...I don't know what happened to her..If fame got in the way or what, but she surely isn't the person she used to be..I used to love watching her on housewives and her own show, but now I find myself not wanting to have anything to do with her TV wise..Such a shame..


 

Laurie Palmer

None of us know what happens when they are around each other. I like both Bethenny & Jason. But I don't understand why he didn't leave and get his own place, especially given they wouldn't have to see each other (aka Divorce). I feel bad for both of them (and Bryn). But the worst comes out in most people when they get divorced, which is sad for everyone.

Jo-Ann Tuohey

Duh, Jason doesn't have a full time job because he put everything into building up Bethanny's company (which was failing if you remember) and once she got all her money, the greed got the best of her, and she ruined Jason and Bryn's lives forever, the end.....

nonmember avatar tracy Crosby

She is awful! Jason had a helping hand in her success. She constantly torr him down. I'm sure she would have treated anyone like that who was unfortunate enough to marry her.

Arlena Burdick

He really tried but it was lost. Jason love his daughter and he really loved his wife but she didn't want him.

mimmi... mimmie123

She has issues from her childhood & just can't seem 2 get it right .She is so mean to jason .I am hoping she doesn't take crap out on Bryn .She may think she won't but she has everyone @ her so why not Bryn .I have a feeling when Bryn get's old enough she will end up going to live with her dad .My son has the same name .I named him after a baseball player & I wanted to nick name him BJ .

Lettie Sumrall

Omg where do I start. I have never watched such a hideous bitch on TV as Bethanny Frankel. She literally tore Jason down piece by piece. I was truly amazed at how much he kept bending over backward to understand her and she just kept walking on him. I hate witches like her and I truly hope he finds a good woman now that will love him and build him back up. It is a shame that, that child has to go thru seeing her mom and dad fighting like that. Bethanny and any parent has no ideal just how damaging it is to hear something like that about either of their parents. She will eventually grow up and hate her mother for being such a bitch.

Marianne Tletski

I am divorced for the past 2 years and have a 8 year old . At the time of the divorce Daddy had a girlfriend who he introduced her to while we were still married. So the bottom line became Daddy has a girlfriend and married people dont do that . I reinforced that we both love her to my daughter.

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