Moms Who Think Drugs Make Them Better Parents Must Be High

Rant 48

pot party
The moms dig into a cannabis-infused three-course meal.
Being a mom is hard. Really hard at times. Even after our little ones start sleeping through the night, playing independently, and finally understanding the command "go to sleep," we moms are still perpetually exhausted. It took me years to finally accept that is what it's like to be a mom -- always pulled in a million different directions thanks to family, work, preschool auctions, recitals, playdates, etc. I've accepted it as just a way of life. Not so for everyone.

A group of Beverly Hills moms proudly admit they've turned to marijuana to cope with this constant frenzy. In fact, it goes beyond the occasional puff-puff in the bathroom when the kids are asleep, with the window open and a towel rolled up along the bottom edge of the door. These women are having lavish dinner parties with pot as the preferred main dish.

Among the most popular menu items: cannabis leaf salad, chicken fried in cannabis oil, and marijuana milkshakes.

These 'marijuana moms' come from various walks of life (some stay-at-home wives of wealthy businessmen, some bartenders and waitresses) but have one crucial thing in common. They say smoking weed, which is legal with a prescription in California, makes them better parents and wives. How, you say? Well, it enables them to relax and stay calm, not angry, and be less stressed. One woman even swears it saved her marriage.

Many say they initially began using to deal with pain or side effects from an illness, then realized the added personality benefit. While I think being relaxed and calm is a good thing, I am not so sure this is the best way to accomplish it. Isn't this essentially just parenting while stoned? And I am not against their right to use marijuana through a legal prescription. That drug has helped many people suffering from illnesses like cancer and with chronic pain. But should we be nurturing and tending to our children in a constant drug haze?

Some of these moms admitted to using several times a day. It's one thing if you have an anxiety disorder or some other issue that is helped by the drug, but it sounds like an unnecessary crutch otherwise. One pro-pot mom compared it to how mothers in the 1960s used Valium to help them cope with the daily emotional strains of running a household. But that doesn't justify it in my eyes. Both examples are equally worrisome. Not because I think the drugs are dangerous to your health, but rather because it sets a bad example -- for other moms.

Being a mother is an emotionally and physically taxing job, but we should find ways to adjust to that new circumstance that doesn't involve drugs. If you need something to “get you through” parenthood every day, that's a problem that marijuana will only mask, not fix. Isn't it better to go to therapy or find some way to get more help with the kids than to turn to this? All moms deserve to be happy and I would hope there is a way to accomplish that without drugs.

Do you think smoking pot can make you a better parent?

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Jespren Jespren

I think it's horrid, but it's also something a segment of the population has pretty much always done, be it valium in the 60's, alcohol in the 40's and 50's, 'coke' or opium drops in the 20's, laudum in the 1800's, etc, etc, etc. Some people think being stoned is the best way to deal with life.

LadyM... LadyMinni

A local 4 year old was wandering around for six hours with just a dog as a parent a few months ago. Of course the "parents" were at home, smoking pot, and had no idea their child was gone. This was in SC so I'm not sure what's being done. Pot isn't legal, but the police and courts have no money and no time.

nonmember avatar fouse

c'mon. pot isnt that bad. what's "horrid" are those people who beat their kids yet are still allowed to have more. being a pot smoker and a parent is not as bad as ur making it out. ur not absolutely out of your head. you can function. you can do everything a child needs. so these ladies like to chill out. so what? how is this any diffrent from pill popping moms? those ladies are everywhere.

Desirae8 Desirae8

Its better than a glass of wine every single day. People are too uptight. Dosome research on the medical benefits of THC.

mamat... mamatreat

People slam parents for using pot to relax but have no problem supporting parents that use legal chemical prescription drugs?  That's pretty sad to me. 

nonmember avatar Wow, how sad.

How pathetic that people on here think it's okay. They say "better than wine or popping pills" How about doing NONE of those things? Funny how everyone now needs marijuana to relax. And I read more about this in another more in-depth article. One of these moms takes her two year old daughter to pot conventions, reads her pro-pot books (One was called 'Mommy's Funny Medicine' -_-) and dresses her in pot costumes. She should be taking her to Disney World, not pot parades. Should have halloween costumes, not pot plant costumes. Nobody NEEDS marijuana, humans have lived without it for years. Cut the crap, stop the excuses. They use it for recreational use, not medical. Parents should NOT do that.

nonmember avatar blue

If a parent has to use a substance at the end of the day, just to be a parent...why they hell did they have kids? People SHOULD NOT need a substance, to be able to get through a day, or find peace at the end of it. That's called a problem. Doesn't matter if it's a physical or emotional addiction, both are unhealthy. That's alcahol, pot, cigarettes, whatever. If you can't cope without substances, get freaking help before you bring kids into the world. Losers.

nonmember avatar Diana

And those saying marijuana isn't addictive, that's a lie. You can be addicted to anything; obvious ones being drugs and alcohol, but other addictions people have are video games, gambling, shopping, stealing, even food. If those things can be addictive, so can your precious marijuana.

early... earlybird11

Don't personally smoke cuz I don't like the stuff but I know moms who break out their wine each night and I think its worse after seeing both. I have no problems with pot except the govt refuses to legalize and regulate. If they did that we would have an economic solution :)

worms... wormspoop

@blue- So your saying just because I smoke cigarettes I shouldn't have had a child? Your a fucking bitch. And no I didn't smoke while I was prego and I don't smoke in my house or around my child. But I do have a stressful job that makes it hard for me to quit. I started back up after I had him cause his father decided to start mentally and physically abusing me. It's a hard habit to kick and you should get off your high horse cause I know your not perfect either.

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