Kailyn Lowry and her husband Javi Marroquin were spotted recently at a tattoo studio where Javi was getting the finishing touches put on his "sleeve" tattoo. It's a cool tattoo and they are a cool couple, but now Kailyn (who is pregnant) and Javi won't have a leg to stand on when it comes to Isaac and their baby-to-be's future tattoos.
As a tattooed mama, this is something that worries me, too. I love tattoos in general. I think they are cool and there is something so amazingly freeing about reclaiming your own skin and making it your own by getting a tattoo. But that still doesn't mean I want my babies ruining their perfect skin with tattoos.
And yes, I know this makes me a hypocrite. From the day I got my first tattoo (at 32) with my husband (a special couple's tattoo) for our seventh wedding anniversary, I knew our kids would probably want tattoos themselves some day. And that bothers me.
Well, to be clear, it doesn't bother me so long as they make the decision the same way I did -- as an adult, after years of deliberation, and something unique and meaningful to them.
I would hate to see either my 6-year-old daughter or my 4-year-old son get tattoos at 18 or 19 that they would come to regret. I would so much rather they wait and then get something small and tasteful.
It's actually not even that I judge tattoos or think they are dirty or any sort of thing. I love tattoos on other people. But as I said, there is something about "reclaiming" skin that feels like you are shedding the old and making room for the new.
That's what bothers me. I made my children, perfect and smooth. That skin is my skin (or at least skin I made) and it's perfect, unblemished, and beautiful. If they felt the need to alter themselves, especially with a giant sleeve or back tattoo, it would make me sad. I wouldn't want them to do it.
I also wouldn't stop them.
I know I have one. I realized right away that by getting a tattoo, I probably made my kids want them when they are older (although maybe it will have the opposite effect!) and I accepted that. But while they are still so little, I can't imagine them growing up and altering their skin. I assume I will feel the same way in 12 years.
Their skin will always feel a little like my own, only better. More perfect. And no, I don't ever want to see that change.
Do you have tattoos and still not want your kids to get them?
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