Bethenny Frankel & Jason Hoppy’s Parenting Fail at Daughter’s Birthday Bash Is One They Need to Work On

Bethenny Frankel's divorce from Jason Hoppy sounds like a doozy. She's called it "excruciating." She's said she feels like a failure. Still, the warring couple managed to get together to celebrate daughter Bryn's third birthday. Though from the sound of it, it makes you wonder if one of them should stay home from now on. Apparently the pair "did not interact" during the entire party! Yikes. You mean no quick, "Hey, three years ago we mutually created this beautiful human being. High five!" Nope. None of that fuzzy wuzzy stuff.

A source says that Bryn was very happy to see her parents together in the same room -- and it's commendable that the exes were willing to stomach each other for the length of time of the party. (Though maybe it was a large venue and they were able to stand on different floors!)

But if this is what Bryn has to look forward to for all of her life's major events and holidays, then Bethenny and Jason either need to learn how to act friendly to each other when their daughter is around, or they need to figure out how to divvy up milestones -- who gets the school play? Who gets prom night? Who gets graduation? Who gets the wedding?

Because, seriously, there is nothing worse than parents who clearly can't stand each other in the same room together. It's just awkward for everyone -- and especially excruciating for the children. Even if divorced parents think they're doing the right thing, if their feelings are so toxic that they spend the time making digs at each other (digs usually passed to the kids and not each other), or giving each other evil looks, or making everyone uncomfortable as they go out of their way to avoid each other, then, honestly, it's just better if one person stays home.

I remember one of the major reasons I dreaded ever getting married was the idea of having a wedding and having to figure out how I'd have my mom and father -- who hadn't seen each other for ages -- in the same room. Would I seriously have to worry about THEM on my wedding day? Just like I'd always worried about THEM?

But then the wedding never happened. And a couple of years later, I found myself in a restaurant with both parents. They hadn't seen or spoken to each other for decades.

And they were fine with each other. In fact, the whole thing was quite fun!

But by then it was all water under the bridge. And I was old enough to not stress about other people's issues. And they were old enough to have completely forgotten why they never liked each other.

But I hope Jason and Bethenny can figure it out before then. For Bryn's sake.

Have you ever had awkward times with divorced parents? Or your ex?

 

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nonmember avatar MammaMel

I hope you were kidding about deciding who gets the school play/prom/graduation/the wedding...REAL parents suck it up and do those things even if the ex is there...and it's probably best not to interact with someone you don't like...don't talk about something you know nothing about.

Serab... Serabelle

So what if they didn't talk to each other? At least they weren't yelling! I'm sure as time goes by things will get better, but these wounds are fresh, they are still going through a bitter divorce, so I think being able to be in the same room and successfully ignore each other and make Bryn' s day a good one should be commended.

Norma Starnes Sawyer

i knew they weren't gonna work out when they had their show.  She never shut her mouth or stopped crying long enough to have a conversation or listen to her husband.  Poor child!

Joann Roth Cunningham

they need to get along, i learned the hard way, it only hurts the kids. i learned be the bigger person. its all about kids,

Etta Samples-Bredeson

Yep they need to Suck it up and get along ... just because they weren't Happy together doesn't eman they hav ethe right to Screw up the little Girls life....

nonmember avatar ROXANN

MY EX & I HAVE A 15YR OLD...WE ALL GO ON SKI TRIPS..SPEND HILIDAYS...AND HE IS WELCOME AT OUR HOME ANYTIME!!! THE WAY IT SHOULD BE!

Taylor Mathews

Thank God for a father who fights for his daughter.

Jo-Ann Tuohey

Team Jason all the way, he should get custody of the baby.

Patricia Grady-Porter

Sad state of affairs , What about Jason`s parents? Did they attend the party? i saw how much they adored that little girl,

nonmember avatar kaerae

I divorced when my kids were little and their dad moved a few hours away. We would meet for visitation exchanges at a restaurant midway, and usually all sit down to eat together. My son told me years later that those meals meant so much to him and made him feel like we were still a family even though we lived apart. It wasn't the easiest thing to sit across from a man I no longer liked or loved, but the looks on my kids' faces made it worth it. To know that we weren't causing them stress and grief, and they still remember it 20 years later and are grateful to us both.

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