'Teen Mom' Kailyn Lowry Isn't a Bad Mom for Taking Son Away From His Dad

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Kailyn Lowry Javi MarroquinHave you heard? Teen Mom 2 star Kailyn Lowry is moving away from baby daddy Jo Rivera, and she's taking son Isaac with her. Kail's husband, Javi Marroquin, has gotten his assignment from the Air Force, and the whole family is shipping out. Welcome to military life, where PCS (permanent change of station) happens every few years, and the whole family has to adjust.

That means that when there are stepkids involved, a military assignment often means separating a child from their biological parent, at least for the majority of the time. So why is poor Kailyn getting a ton of flak from the fans for splitting up Daddy and son? They're even calling her a bad mom!

Said one of Kail's critics on Twitter:

Can't believe you're going to be moving Isaac around all the time to be with some guy who is not even his father. #badmom

Accused another:

Jo's family giveshim stability. You've moved Issac around, different men around, are knocked up, and moving again?

Really, folks, some people will find anything to pick on. A random guy who isn't even his father? Kailyn and Javi are married! Javi is Isaac's stepfather!

And splitting kids and biological parents happens every day in a country where the divorce rate hovers around 50 percent. The days of folks sticking around their hometowns and staying married to the same person forever are long gone.

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People remarry. People move, often for jobs, which is exactly what Kailyn and Javi have in mind. The Air Force is Javi's employer, and they're sending him where they want. Stepchildren of military members is such a common issue that armed forces even provide healthcare coverage for stepkids.

The past few episodes of Teen Mom 2 have been all about the possibility of Javi joining the military and what would happen if he were sent away from their hometown in northeastern Pennsylvania. One thing Kail has mentioned several times is the possibility that Isaac would get to spend longer periods with Jo when he visits his dad -- perhaps even six weeks in the summer as opposed to short weekends. 

That's what being a good mom in a shared custody situation is about. It's not giving up on a love life and a career to stay in one spot for the rest of your life; it's working with your ex and the courts to ensure that your child does have time with their other parent ... even if it's not what they are used to.

What do you think of Kailyn's move with Isaac? Any tips to help her and Jo?

 

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nonmember avatar Miss Winks

I think she is horrible to Jo. She is always looking for a chance to make him look bad or deny him his rights as a father. She's a control-freak egomaniac and I wish the court system at least would put her in her place. Javi should take note that if things go south between them and they have a kid, she will treat him exactly like Jo and put him through the wringer as much as possible about custody and future women he may get with being around their child. Even though, oddly enough Miss Kailyn can have whoever SHE wants around Isaac. She loves her son but she loves herself more the way she tries to sever his relationship with his dad. Jo is no angel but he's still better than her selfish ass.

jessa... jessasmamma

I don't really care for Kailyn, however - this is something you have to expect when you're not with your child's other parent. Neither Kailyn or Jo can expect the other to stop their lives. Jo clearly hasn't done that - he has his girlfriend around Isaac AND leaves Isaac when he's having his weekends with him. Jo's clearly not willing to put Isaac before everything else in his life or he wouldn't sacrifice time with Isaac and go out drinking, etc. Kailyn is MARRIED to Javi. They're not moving to take Isaac away from Jo. They're moving because it's what is best for their FAMILY. Javi is Isaac's step-father and the man of the house that Isaac lives in. Should Kailyn stay back with Isaac so that Isaac can continue seeing Jo every other weekend? Absolutely not. Isaac deserves to grow up knowing what it is like to have a FAMILY. And outside of deployments, Kailyn and Javi will be together as a family with Isaac. THAT is what is best for Isaac.

I do think it is important for Jo to remain in Isaac's life, just like Kailyn mentioned - longer visits during the summer, alternating holidays, however they work it out. It's best for Isaac if everyone thinks about HIM before anything else. Having a home, financial stability, TWO parents (whether one is a step parent or not) in his home, etc.

nonmember avatar kaerae

The less exposure to that thug the better. People move. I don't know anyone who lives where they did as a teenager. It's just another risk you take when you have a baby in high school. Jo still lives with his parents, he can grow up and follow his son. There's nothing keeping him in PA except his imaginary "Rapper" career. He could get a real job near Isaac if he cared to.

.LoVe... .LoVeMyBuG.

Kaerae: I so agree! Jo can get a life and move out of mommy and daddy's house and grow up. At least she seems to have it together and from the sounds of it she isn't denying Jo visitation, he will still get to see his son. It's not like she is up and moving and purposely taking her son away from his other family, her HUSBAND got stationed somewhere else, they are moving because they have to. If Jo has an issue with it, tell him to take it up with the military lol. 

jessa... jessasmamma

@Miss Winks - Jo's girlfriend is known to do drugs. He leaves his son during his time with him to go out and party, drink, etc. While I definitely agree that Kailyn has made her own mistakes - I have never heard of Kailyn or her boyfriend(s) doing drugs. And I don't think I've ever seen pictures of Kailyn out partying, especially not during her time with Isaac.


I don't think Jo is a "bad" father, I just don't think he's as good as some people make him out to be. If it wasn't for his parents paying for everything for him so that he doesn't have to have a REAL job, 90% of the things that "he" has done for Isaac, would've never happened. I honestly think being away from his grandparents will be harder on Isaac than being away from his dad. 


 


If anyone remembers from Kailyn's 16 & pregnant episode - Jo was horrible to Kailyn. He was always leaving her to go out with his friends. They were BOTH immature, but he made it very clear that Isaac was HER problem - and now he wants to play the victim card. Sorry, as annoying as Kailyn is, she's stepped up in a big way for her son. Jo, however, has not.

Heather Carr

As a former Navy wife, you go where your husband goes. Why should she choose to stay around Jo if her hubby has orders. I am sure the courts know all there is to know about it. It is nobody's business. But I say good for her, as a wife of a military man she should go.

Melinda Kendrick

kat keep up the good work. U r not abad mom for moving ur son. Tell jo to come see him wherever u r.

Amanda Chambliss

I watch the show and I am a military wife with a small child. I think that Jo is not innocent and the perfect father so before people go throwing stones at the mother (which is what usually happens anyway) they need to stop and take a harder look at the situation. Kail and Javi are trying to provide for Issac and Javi has put his life on the line and decided to serve his country and fight for his family instead of sitting in front of a computer on Twitter and bashing him and his new family. I do believe that Jo has not seen Issac since he moved to a different city and is closer to his new girlfriend V and started his "rap" career, has he not? I think she is not doing a bad thing but she is doing what millions of mother do all the time, provide for their family and support their military husband, so back off!!!!

Lynda Birch Jeffs

I get the child might not be with his real dad all the time, but seems to me these guys all "got it" as far as being decent and working together for the sake of a child... Way to go!

Donna Robinson-Reyes

I am a wife of a military man and I did the same thing.when it comes to making choices on what's best for you and your family. You do what's best for your family..my husband joined the navy to give my children and myself a good life and that's what Javier did ..Joe will adjust he is a part time dad anyway..kaitlyn is doing the right thing ..Home is where your husband is ...That's our motto...as a military wife

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