Restaurant Gives Parents Discount for 'Well-Behaved Kids' & Sets Dangerous Precedent

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restaurant receiptAs any parent knows, eating out in a restaurant with children can be a bit of a dicey game. Sometimes your kids are angels, and other times you just want to crawl under the table ... if it wasn't such a horrific mess from all the food they'd thrown down there. But what if your bill depended on how well-behaved your children were?

A Reddit user recently posted a picture of a receipt from an Italian restaurant in Washington named Sogno Di Vino with a title "If only all restaurants did this for people with kids ..." On it there was a $4 discount for "well-behaved kids". A sweet gesture, and I bet those parents were pretty proud.

But the whole thing makes me kind of nervous.

Can you imagine if you were charged more for those times when your children aren't quite so good (as plenty of commenters suggested should be standard)? Or if the next time you didn't get a discount?

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Eating out with children is already filled with plenty of pressure for parents. Every raised voice, every dropped spoon can make a mom feel like all eyes in the joint are searing into her. And yes, sometimes children are out of control and should be removed from a restaurant. No one deserves for their meal to be interrupted by kids gone wild, but there also needs to be a certain amount of tolerance for families dining out without parents feeling like they're being judged even more. Most children just aren't going to be seen and not heard, and as long as mom and dad are making sure they're not heard too loudly, they deserve a little bit of a break. Having a random waitress decide what "well-behaved" is could be all sorts of problematic. I also can't imagine that restaurants really want to get into a battle over the bill with "those" parents who always deny their precious little ones ever do anything wrong.

Would it be nice to be rewarded when the planets align and you all make it through dinner delightfully? Absolutely. But I'm not sure it's worth the price you'd pay for the days when your kids act more ... like kids.

Would you welcome a policy in which your restaurant bill was adjusted according to your children's behavior?


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nonmember avatar SDC

I've said it before, and I'll say it again. I don't understand why people freak out about children's behavior in public, unless they somehow think they are entitled to have children kept away from them and out of public life. Children are so much better behaved than adults! I have never seen child behavior in public that even remotely compares to what I have seen adults do, either in quality or quantity of unpleasantness or disruptiveness. It's just that people are used to accepting adults' bad behavior, (and I'm not talking about silliness like using a cell phone when someone has decided you shouldn't), but it is acceptable to say that children (and by extension mothers), should be kept at home if any child-free first-class-citizen decides that they are even remotely disturbed by the child's presence, whether disruptive or not. And for the record, I never took my son into a restaurant until he was able to behave with courteous, indoor manners, and he's never embarrassed me. I just don't think people should be busting on kids, and by extension, moms, all the time.

Jessica Maria

I think this was such a huge compliment on the parents. Far too many times we see children running the parents. This is not the way it should be. It's about time that those good kids are recognized instead of the bad kids getting all of the attention.

Mama2... Mama2MonkeyBoys

I would imagine it is in place to encourage parents to PARENT and at least ATTEMPT to teach their children how to behave in public.

I love it. Encouraged to seek out this restaurant now...

Mama2... Mama2MonkeyBoys

And SDC - No. SOME children are well behaved in public. Other children (most children) are absolute nightmares because they have lazy, complacent parents who feel it's the rest of the world's problem to deal with their kids.

I was in Applebees on Black Friday with my husband, my then-4 year old and my 3 year old. The kids in the booth behind (probably 8-10 years old) were AWFUL. Their parents were in the booth across from them and were checked out for the whole meal. At one point, my 3 year old asked me if I could tell the kids to stop kicking the chairs and jumping up and down. MY 3 YEAR OLD.

God, would I have loved Applebees to have this discount that day.

ander... andersongirl562

I think its awesome. From the time my children were a year old we started working on being quiet and sitting still at restaurants. By age two they rarely had tantrums or misbehaved at a reastaurant. By age three it just didn't happen ever. And we have five kids that we take out to eat once a week on sundays. We always receive compliments on their behaviour.

nonmember avatar Jane

All these angry people obviously have bad kids! This is too funny! If you had well behavied children you would be excited to go and eat at this restaurant. You don't have to pay more if your wonderful children act up, you just have to pay your bill. Take a chill pill people!

whood... whoodathunk

Love this idea!  If your kids don't behave...LEAVE!   Why should I pay over $100 for my family to go out (seldom) and have to put up with you yelling at your screaming, food throwing brat?  That said, our favorite restaurant has a note on the menu...if you cannot control your children, do not patronize our restaurant.  They do not hesitate to ask people to leave.  We always have a nice meal there!

nonmember avatar Kimberly

Good greif! This was a one time, nice gesture to show appreciation to parents whose children were exceptionally well behaved. No one said it was the policy of the restaurant to offer it to everyone, everytime their children behave. And you are not charged more if your children are not well behaved, you still pay the amount that is listed on the menu. These children must have been extremely good, not just okay acting this night for the manager to give a discount. It is so commonplace to make excuses for children these days, they are no longer expected to behave, other people are just expected to put up with them without complaint. I think it was a lovely gesture for this restaurant to recognize these parents and the children for their behavior. And I say this as someone who will never get that type of discount when I take my grandchildren out to eat, I consider myself lucky if we aren't asked to leave lol. I have however, taken the children out of the restaurant when they became annoying to other diners.

nonmember avatar A

As someone who worked as a server at Outback Steakhouse I will freely admit that when family's sat in my section it made my job 10 times harder... Parents arguing with kids, kids screaming, kids throwing food, kids disrespectful to their parents as well as to me. If a family with well behaved kids and attentive parents sat in my section I would buy the kids a chocolate Sunday. But to be honest it rarely happened, btw, I have kids too, I would be mortified if they acted the way I saw some other kids behave!

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