Restaurant Gives Parents Discount for 'Well-Behaved Kids' & Sets Dangerous Precedent

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restaurant receiptAs any parent knows, eating out in a restaurant with children can be a bit of a dicey game. Sometimes your kids are angels, and other times you just want to crawl under the table ... if it wasn't such a horrific mess from all the food they'd thrown down there. But what if your bill depended on how well-behaved your children were?

A Reddit user recently posted a picture of a receipt from an Italian restaurant in Washington named Sogno Di Vino with a title "If only all restaurants did this for people with kids ..." On it there was a $4 discount for "well-behaved kids". A sweet gesture, and I bet those parents were pretty proud.

But the whole thing makes me kind of nervous.

Can you imagine if you were charged more for those times when your children aren't quite so good (as plenty of commenters suggested should be standard)? Or if the next time you didn't get a discount?

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Eating out with children is already filled with plenty of pressure for parents. Every raised voice, every dropped spoon can make a mom feel like all eyes in the joint are searing into her. And yes, sometimes children are out of control and should be removed from a restaurant. No one deserves for their meal to be interrupted by kids gone wild, but there also needs to be a certain amount of tolerance for families dining out without parents feeling like they're being judged even more. Most children just aren't going to be seen and not heard, and as long as mom and dad are making sure they're not heard too loudly, they deserve a little bit of a break. Having a random waitress decide what "well-behaved" is could be all sorts of problematic. I also can't imagine that restaurants really want to get into a battle over the bill with "those" parents who always deny their precious little ones ever do anything wrong.

Would it be nice to be rewarded when the planets align and you all make it through dinner delightfully? Absolutely. But I'm not sure it's worth the price you'd pay for the days when your kids act more ... like kids.

Would you welcome a policy in which your restaurant bill was adjusted according to your children's behavior?


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It's stupid. And any server that charged me more for a "bad" kid would not be getting a tip

bingo... bingogurl

Since my kids are always well behaved, I would love the discount!

Sarah Jane Warner

I'm kind of on the fence about this cos there are just those times when you can't get your child to behave! What then? Lock them in a room while you go out to eat? You can't "control" your kids and although its amazing that some kids are well behaved, everyone just has those days where their kid just won't stop misbehaving.

ratch... ratchetlee

I love it, lol!

Alea Erin Steihr

I dont think its a bad idea. I am however, getting tired of all the "adults" calling kids names. Your acting like bratty children. I love my kids with all my heart, but they definetly are not perfect. Now granted, when we go out, they dont run around the restaurant or anything, but I sometimes they can get a little frustrating. I ALWAYS immediately take care of it when thay are like this. But you have to realize, it can take longer for some children to finally learn what proper behavior in public is. Not all kids are the same, and just because a child is acting out, doesnt necessarily mean hes a "bad" kid. Take the time to think before you pass judegment because I know that some children with autism or other things can have a very difficult time sitting still. And dont tell me they should stay home because they and there parents deserve the same luxuries as everyone else. Shame on some of you.

claud... claudiaj1218

i don't think charging people extra for having bratty kids is going to solve anything.  that's just a lawsuit waiting to happen.  i agree, your children should behave while in a restaurant, but s**t happens and people should understand that.  btw, the overwhelming number of people who said that they should charge extra for bratty kids probably don't have kids of their own.

Flori... Floridamom96

Miria Bailey, that is completely untrue. You absolutely can control your children. If you can't then you remove them from the situation. You are accountable whether you like it or not. If you aren't willing to accept accountability for your children then you aren't ready to be a parent.

Shlamoof Shlamoof

My kids are great and normally well behaved when on shopping trips and such, but when we rarely can afford to go out to eat, they are very excited and they have a hard time sitting still and quiet.  Their little minds are racing and trying to take everything in.  Parents who could really use that discount are probably the ones with the anxious kids like mine (though this doesn't excude rowdy and rude children).  Though those parents were probably very proud, I don't think discounts should be regularly given for kids no matter how well behaved.  If this was a one-time kind of surprise discount, then I think it was very sweet :)

Erin Mills

Personally, I don't think you should get a discount either way. We don't really go out to eat very often and my kids usually behave (we have had the occasions where we had to pack up early though, I  won't lie). The only problem I see with it is that is sets a possibly unattainable standard for some. Say another family sees that and takes their kid out to the same place to eat and the kid is well behaved but they don't get the discount, You don't know what the repercussions of that may end up being. Many parents will probably blow it off figuring it was a one time thing and they didn't get lucky that time but others may blame their child and punish them for not being good enough, even though they may have been. I also have to say some input, you can think me rude or whatever for it, but I can not STAND when parents let their kids run wild in a sit down restaurant. I have seen situations where parents thought their kids were 'sooo cuuute' running around, bumping into diners and servers, knocking things over, screaming, wrestling, climing along booths until they kick you in the face, even once saw a little girl (maybe 3ish?) stealing tips! That is ridiculous, you kid isn't THAT cute, trust me...and if you think that qualifies as good behavior then you need some parenting classes.

rutha... ruthallen

As the parent of one well behaved good mannered little girl this would be awesome. But I also am the parent of a boy that has a lot of challenges.... with adhd and being on the autism spectrum meal times are hard enough with out the stress of being worried about having to pay extra because my son was having a off day.

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