Bethenny Frankel’s Custody Battle With Ex Will Make Their Daughter the Loser

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bethenny frankelWow, Bethenny Frankel's divorce just got even uglier. When Bethenny filed for divorce, she pretty much demanded everything -- including child support and primary custody of their 2-year-old daughter, Bryn. So now it's Daddy's turn, and surprise, surprise: Jason Hoppy is demanding primary custody of Bryn, too. It's official. They're fighting over the kid.

Haven't these two seen Kramer vs. Kramer? Or pretty much every major public divorce battle, ever? The moral of the story every damn time is that the kids suffer more than anyone else. After all our collective history with divorce, it still floors me that a parent would demand full custody when there's no history of abuse. Even with a divorce, kids need both of their parents in their lives.

As far as we know, neither Bethenny nor Jason has done anything really to make them unfit parents. Oh sure, you could make a case that they're unwise parents. They're not perfect people. (None of us are!) But unless a parent is genuinely at risk for abusing or neglecting their kids, I think divorcing couples should make every effort to compromise and share the parenting.

Divorce is SO disruptive to kids' lives. I'm seeing it now in my own life -- I'm going through a divorce, too. And even though we get along well and our son gets quality time with both of us regularly, it's still very stressful for him. I can't imagine how much worse it would be for him if he were suddenly cut off from one of us. He needs both of us now, and he'll need both of us later on in life. Every kid benefits from having two parents in their lives, even if those two parents aren't together.

I'm just glad Bryn's too young to know what's really going on. She's still old enough to notice that maybe she's seeing less of one parent, though. She will always need a mother. And she will always need a father. She will always need both parents in her life as much as possible. Whatever is making these two adults so freakin' angry right now, I hope they resolve it as soon as possible, for Bryn's sake.

Have you seen what happens to kids when divorcing parents fight over custody?

 

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flowe... flower_momma

I am so pleased that I don't know who either of these people are or what they do. Gives me hope for the future.

nonmember avatar melissa

Whoa! Her face looks skeletal there! I bet she would rock a day of the dead costume like no one else!

sand008 sand008

She's so selfish. I was watching some reruns of her show, and my goodness she can drain you. She's needy all about her.

jalaz77 jalaz77

I agree sandoo8

Simone Gehrig Hanckel

Primary custody doesn't mean one parent only. Please don't perpetuate myths about this. It means that the child has one primary carer, typically the parent that was the primary attachment (usually the mother) and that the other parent has custody and access that doesn't interfere with the child's developmental needs and routines.
Studies show that children of houses that share custody equally are suffering. A primary household, even though it's hard on the parents, is actually the healthiest situation. No child should have to feel they live dual lives, just because their parents couldn't work their relationship out.

nonmember avatar Tonya

Sand hit the nail on the head. Bethenny is selfish. And I'll go ahead and add that she's a narcissist....I never ever understood her following. I couldn't stand her from early on. There's an inherent meanness there. Just look at the above picture. It shows.

Judith Grant Lombardo

They should both have equal custody....50-50...she will have nannys watching her daughter most of the time with her busy schedule, but Jason has parents that can help him out, and they are her grandparents, which is alot better to have family watching your children...Its a shame, they had it all and just let it slip through their fingers, Its a shame, but she seems very needy..doesnt she remember her own mother and not knowing her father?? Hopefully they can share equal custody with their daughter for her sake...


 

Connie Poppell-Quinn

I cannot believe anyone is surprised by the "I want it all. I want everything" attitude.. Haven't you people been watching the same Bethany I've been watching?? Every single thing has to be here way! Right down to how many time they have sex every week, to I don't want to spend every Christmas/Holiday with Hoppy's parents because her parents didn't give a rats ass about giving her a decent childhood... If she thinks something isn't right she yells and calls names and acts frankly like a 12 year old throwing a tantrum to get her way and if she doesn't, then it Goodbye to you.... When are you people going to wake up and see exactly how she truly is?


 


 

Linda Salyers Horn

lets get this right she got 100 million dollars in a deal from Jim Beam and she wants Jason to pay her Child support....i know its his child but he also helped her broker that deal....pay up bethany ......she is just using her child as a pawn ....shr is a BITCH i will never watch the show again ..and she was one of my favs

Kristine Ullemeyer

They both need counseling and Not from a lawyer! I hope they both realize this for the sake of Bryn!l

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