Church Pastor Poses in Bathtub With Granddaughter

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bishop trotter bathtubSo... a grampa took a bubble bath with his four-year-old granddaughter. And her mother took a photo. And the photo was posted via Instagram. And oh by the way, the grampa happens to be a senior pastor at a mega-church in Chicago. And now everyone is freaking out over the photo.

Bishop Larry Trotter says his family was visiting him. He was taking a bubble bath when his four-year-old granddaughter asked if she could join him. Why not? Trotter claims he and the granddaughter were both wearing swimming trunks and that the girl's mother was present through the five minutes the girl was in the tub. But the photo has brought a furious storm of criticism to Trotter and his family. And I can see why!

I kind of sympathize with Trotter up to a point. I'm sure at the time, in his mind, this was all perfectly innocent. I don't buy that bit about both of them wearing swimming trunks -- that smells like baloney. But I doubt he was having creepy, pedophile thoughts about his granddaughter.

Still, I wouldn't be okay with this if I were the girl's mother. I think it's okay for parents bathe with their babies. I've done it. But I stopped once my son was toddler age -- well, more because it was just too splashy by then than because I thought it was inappropriate. But I think for everyone there's sort of an age where this starts to feel weird. Remember how freaked out people were when they found out Gwyneth Paltrow bathes with her school-age kids

Then there's the generational difference. It's one thing to be body-positive and free around your own kids. But add another generation and... I don't know, I have no justification except that again, it just feels weird to me. Grandparents bathing a baby, changing its diaper, helping toddlers get dressed, all seem fine. The idea of bathing with grandparents, though, just makes me cringe a little.

And then there's the gender issue. I think it's fine for kids to find out that our bodies all look different. But you have to watch your kids closely for when they start showing their own sense of modesty. Some kids never have any -- other kids want privacy at an early age. I think this photo would be less disturbing if the girl were with her grandmother (as long as the grandmother's chest was fully submerged), or if it were with Trotter and a grandson. But there's just too many taboos thrown together here: Gender, generation, age. I mean, pick one or two out of three and it's not quite so bad. Don't you think?

Of course, in another culture in another country people would be wondering what all the fuss is about. 

Obviously it was a bad idea to 1. take the photo and 2. post it on Instagram. (Trotter said someone else posted it on his account.) I hope Trotter's career survives this scandal! I think people need to give him a break. But a few lines were definitely crossed here.

Do you think it's inappropriate for kids to take baths with their grandparents?

 

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Evaly... EvalynCarnate

Seems like the circumstances were innocent enough. Should they have posted it to instagram? No.

nonmember avatar Theresa

I'm sure there was nothing weird or sinister going on. The biggest issue is why we feel the need to constantly seek attention by posting every aspect of our live on the internet. This so-called scandal is a direct consequence of an attention seeker getting the exact opposite response she expected. Would you special moments mean less if you couldn't share them with strangers? That's a question you should as yourself every time you want to hit that upload button. I don't feel sorry for people involved in these situations because they do it to themselves.

Heath... HeatherMazzone

I don't see why the woman felt the need to post that picture but the fact that she did proves it was an innocent thing in their minds. Nothing perverted. People are so quick to assume the worst. Leave the man alone. Geez.

nonmember avatar Nicole

When I was a kid (up to about 7) I was terrified to get in to the bathtub alone. My dad used to but on his bathing suit and hop in the tub with me. There was never anything perverse about it and after some time, I got over my fear.

spect... spectralmind

Has no one ever seen a foreign language show or film? I admit, even I was surprised to see things like a grown man at a beach, naked swimming with his pre teenager (around 12) son in films. But that's because of how we are conditioned to think about things like that in this country. Why shouldn't a father and son strip down to go have some fun at the beach without dirtying their clothes? It is just body parts.

I agree though that you have to be mindful of your audience, and seeing how we are in America, and it's not accepted, he shouldn't have posted it.  

mamav... mamavaness

My husbands mom still bathes with their 5yr old son i think its weird but they dont so maybe to him it wasnt weird at all

nonmember avatar Dee

Definite overshare and the facts he's a bishop means nothing but it seems rather innocent, if they do have suits on then there's not a thing wrong other then the overshare. I would never post a pic of kids online. What to us sane people

looks like an adorable naked baby is tantalizing to the sick people of this world. I think most people on this are just over reacting with prudish norms but this shouldn't have gone up for lots of reasons. Stop it people!

pagan... paganmommy4

Four year olds are far away of how bodies are different. And I would have to say NO unless I knew that my children were wearing a swimsuit and so was the other grandparent. And MEN OF GOD MOLEST CHILDREN every damned day... If this were her mother I wouldn't mind it so much.. My daughter is seven and likes to take showers with me and her younger sister to save time. I think when she's developing is when she'll get privacy

nonmember avatar Ashley

Honestly i can see where parents would be outrage an stuff but to me its the same as grandparents swimming in a pool with their grandchildren minus the bubbles. Its jus our mind see things differently an dont recoginze that swimming an bathing r almost the samething.

Gages... Gages_Mommy32

I agree with most of the other comments. It probably was innocent, but very dumb to post online.

And personally, I do think it's kind of weird. My 16 month old showers with me everyday, mainly for convenience...we're home alone, so I can't really let him run wild while I'm showering. But I wouldn't be comfortable with my parents or my in-laws bathing with him. And I don't think they would even care to.

But hey, to each his own!

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